My Parents Don't Believe

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When I think I have aspergers (read my older posts to see that I probably have it) my mom she thinks I'm joking! She says she would notice something when I was young. When I was ten I was overhearing a conversation my parents were talking about autism. They thought I had but never got me tested! I need a way to prove them I already have aspire/aq test scores that are high they probably would not believe me! Please help it will be greatly appreciated,

If you have troubles at school, with learning or socializing. You can talk to school counselor about your issues and suspicions. Your parents are more likely to take it seriously if the school talked to them about it. Testing is a lot of trouble and cost quite a bit of money. If you experience no trouble in school work and everyday life, it's not too important to get it done. You can just learn about high functioning autism and understand yourself better.

I've been wondering a lot lately if I'm the only aspie who's really close to her parents, who are glad she was diagnosed, accept her for who she is and just want her to be happy. A lot of the people's posts here sound like their parents are like something out of a horror movie!

Doesn't surprise me at all that your parents don't believe you. Maybe they think you caught it from somewhere. Maybe they think they didn't bring you up well. Maybe deep down, they suspect that it might be genetic and that they have it in their family tree. Either way they don't want to know about it (at least not when they talk to you), so I think your best bet is to raise it at your school through your school counselor (as a previous poster stated) and get yourself assessed, so you can benefit from any specialist programs they have at your school.

The Problem Is I Am Homeschooled.

Wonder if you have any friends or brothers and sisters you can talk to.

What country are you in? In most countries, but not the USA, you can get seen by a psychiatrist for free (covered by national healthcare). If it's not free, research local psychiatrists and find one specializing in aspergers, then go there. Take one of those asperger's spectrum tests online and bring the results to the psychiatrist.

My psychiatrist diagnosed me with Aspergers after like 3 sessions. If you have to pay to see the psychiatrist it could be anywhere from $60-150 per session.

When I told my mother I am HFA (diagnosed at age 35) she said "You can't be autistic- you're not ret*d!" Unfortunately, my parents did know that I had a number of issues as a child, but they never were able to put the pieces together. This was in the 1970's and 80's, when there was very little information available for educators and health professionals regarding kids with HFA. I was verbal (though hyperlexic, which means yes, I'm verbal- but in a mostly written, and sort of disjointed way) and was able to achieve academically, but I had severe issues with social skills, anxiety and depression, as well as I have gross motor deficits.

Sometimes parents believe the stereotypes that go with autism- that everyone on the spectrum is non-verbal or has severe cognitive deficits, or that people with autism can't possibly function out in the normals' world. The truth is that some of us learn to function very effectively in the normals' world because we have the intellect to do so, and we have discovered how to navigate our own road maps to get to where we need to go.

The best thing you can do is to learn how to work with the road map you have. Get all the information you can on Asperger's/ HFA / autism so that you know what you're dealing with. Your individual wiring is going to be different than mine, it's going to be different from the normals that surround you, but it's yours- and you can learn to use it to your advantage. Age and time are your friends in this endeavor, and it does get easier as you get older and get more experience.