Aspies who live with family?

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I'm just trying to figure out if I'm one of the few 18+ aspies who live with parents.

32 & currently live with family. I've been here for ~2 1/2 years. When I first moved in with them I Needed their help as my health and symptoms were bad & I had no money. Now I'm significantly healthier and wealthier and could afford to move out on my own if I wanted to, but I'm staying in order to continue building the capital I need to start the business I want to be in. If life changes, I can afford to move out if I have to. ie If I were to meet someone I wanted to move in with etc. Otherwise I'm waiting until I Need to move in order to have the space required for business purposes.

It's also important to note that even at my age it's not uncommon for people, NT's included, to be living with family around here - not at all. We have the highest rate of adult children living with parents/family members in the country. This is because of basic economics. The average house in the region now costs more than $1Million & local wages don't allow most people to buy a place anymore. Even rents are very high in many parts of the city.

Also, there are a lot of immigrant families here that come from collectivist cultures in India and China where adult children remain living with their families, their spouses move in with them, and their children are raised by their parents and grandparents all under one big roof.

So, I was living w/ family because of my ASD, but now by choice.. and am fortunate to live in a region where I can camouflage my reasons for living w/ family due to the pure economics of this place.

There are still plenty of young people living on their own or with roommates, though. It's not like No one moves out and does their own independent thing around here. It's just that you're not looked down upon as being defective for not doing it because it's now become so common for people to simply not ever move out, or to move back for money reasons.

I live with my parents again. I like to say we live together because we pay part of the bills too and the mortgage so it's not like we are living with them and paying them rent and using their stuff and renting out a room from them, we own the house together.

I'm 24 and I still live with my paranoid, control freak family. I don't have a job, so I don't have much of a choice but to live with my family. However, I'm hoping to earn enough money from a job so I can move out of the house and find myself a place to live in.

I think most people at age 19 still live with their family and I've known most aspies to live with their family well into their 20s. I don't think it's something anyone should shame themselves for, 18 is actually very young to be independent or even try to be independent. And being away from your parents doesn't necessarily even mean someone is either a good person or a successful person. It's just an annoying stereotype society has, most people realize it's an outdated one I think.

Personally I'm 24 (25 in 12 hours ) and I live alone, but in reality I'd prefer being homeless over living with my parents again.

/e accidentally voted yes, misread the options lol..

I don't live "with" my family anymore, but I'm not too far away from my dad either. He still pulls some of the strings in my life, which I am thankful for since I don't think I'd be able to get by without his help.

I mainly don't like living with mine because they are always lounging around and don't want to take me out and I'm the type of person who gets bored easily at home.

I moved out at 20. So I did live with family for a couple years after turning 18. I think nowadays even NT kids live with family when they go to college. If you ask about living with family after 24 that might be more indicative of the differences.

I am 21 and still live with my parents.

I moved out at 22. Didnt have a job, and rent is very high around here. Most nts still live at home at 18. college students are financially dependent, and living in the dorms doesn't make you any less dependent just because technically you don't live with your family, since they're paying for the dorm. Parents usually pay for their kids' college education, food, and other expenses. most people don't move out till their early twenties anyway.

I am 25 and still live with my mom, I pay her rent and am on SSI...hopefully I can move out soonish, but I have to find subsidized housing or housing that caters to people with fixed income, or find room-mates to afford it.

I lived with mine till I moved in with my girlfriend at 29. I moved quite a distance so I stay with em a couple weeks when I travel to see em which is a couple times a year.

I am 49 and live with my wife and children and my mom now lives with us because her alzheimers means she can no longer live alone.

I see many NT young adults in this community (suburb of New York City) living with their parents.
This is a consequence of a lack of affordable housing in this region.

Last edited by Adamantium on 21 Mar 2015, 4:44 pm, edited 1 time in total.

i hate being a worthless dependent.

You may be a dependent, but you are not worthless!

In fact, just by your status as a dependent you probably have a substantial impact on your family's taxes.

Of course your remarkable gifts as a talented human being are not measurable by standard economic indices, unless you do something like publish a book or sell a movie or tv script. But WP visitors know.

Raising them to absurd levels.