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anthropic_principle
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21 May 2015, 1:17 am

Do people ever say this to you?
I dont know why but apparently that's how I'm seen when maintaining a seemingly neutral expression.



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21 May 2015, 3:18 am

People don't explicitly say that to me but their actions show that they see me in that way. ln my case it's mostly because l'm always anxious and look insecure. People grossly underestimate me.



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21 May 2015, 5:15 am

That and scared, yeah.



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21 May 2015, 9:33 am

iliketrees wrote:
That and scared, yeah.

My wife told me that I looked "scared" in many of our wedding pictures. To this day (some 20+ years later) I still cannot distinguish between those photos in which I (supposedly) looked "scared" and those which I looked "normal".



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21 May 2015, 10:09 am

Rocket123 wrote:
iliketrees wrote:
That and scared, yeah.

My wife told me that I looked "scared" in many of our wedding pictures. To this day (some 20+ years later) I still cannot distinguish between those photos in which I (supposedly) looked "scared" and those which I looked "normal".

I really can't read facial expressions nor apparently produce them if I look scared constantly.



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21 May 2015, 10:16 am

When I was in my early teens my friends told me that I looked confused and gave me the nickname "Confuzed" after a local punk band. (For this reason I chose Confuzed as my first screen name.) I guess in my case, looking confused is more a symptom of ADD than it is a symptom of autism/asperger's.



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21 May 2015, 10:20 pm

People ask me "Is anything wrong", "What's the matter", "You look upset/mad" when I am fine all the time.


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21 May 2015, 11:02 pm

I think I probably often look confused, upset, or disgusted.
I'm sure it's true a lot of the times, even if my conscious thought is doing something completely different.
The facial expressions are probably tied to subconscious activity.
This effect of not being connected with your current expressions may be because of dissociation.



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22 May 2015, 12:18 am

Come to think of it I've also been told I 'always look sick', and in stressful times I've been asked why are you smiling like when I was being ranted at by my dad, when I wasnt aware I was smiling. Then of course theres the 'are you okay' one, but most people here aren't nice enough for that one.