Excessively Apologising

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Does anyone else say "sorry" virtually every other word when conversing with another human being?

I am almost curious to see how I would react if someone were to mug me. I suspect I would end up apologising to the culprit for not carrying enough cash.

Nope. In fact I may apologize not often enough.

I say "sorry" only when I truly mean it or when I know I am supposed to.
In the second case when I say "I'm sorry" I will also add "but..." and it won't be an actual apologizing. The "sorry" will mean "I am aware I might have been wrong in your opinion and you want me to be sorry but I don't think I need to apologize. I can say sorry since you want to hear it so badly but you are going to hear my part of the story next".

And to be honest I dislike people who apologize for everything they do. It's very hard to tell when they are actually apologizing and when they are simply being afraid. It also makes me think I should console them. It's uncomfortable.

I apologise most of the time because I fear I did something socially wrong.

Yes. I come from a culture where people tend to apologize almost like a habit. Now living in Australia, I try to break that habit because people here will take advantage of it. Even if I don't say "I'm sorry", my tone of voice is still rather apologetic and people will think they can easily step on my head (someone pointed that out to me when she heard my conversation with another person). I wish I could be like those Australians that absolutely don't care when they wrong other people.

I rarely apologize. It feels weird and I can't make it sound sincere.

Mostly I say I am sorry when I didn't even do the thing the person is having a problem with. Like when they are distressed about something that happened to them. I hardly ever say it when I am being accused of being rude or whatever. It's usually a response to them being either rude first or trying to be intimidating and I don't care for that behavior. I don't care who they are.

Just once unless the person starts to get angrier.

I usually ignore apologies and other social conventions. I'll say sorry to a person if someone explicitly tells me to or indicates that I should.

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I'm the opposite. I apologize excessively, when I fear someone didn't quite get what I mean. But where I am suppose to say sorry, I don't notice when, and so I don't say Sorry to the important stuff. Woopsie.

I usually apologize if anything physical is involved, but not when conversation is involved.

I apologize at people I end up touching. Even they're not bothered at all.
Or end up bothering them in some ways. (Noises, breaking stuffs, physically hurting someone, all of that usually by accident) Even I'm not clumsy, I'm really careful at it.

But when words and body languages are only involved, I don't. It feels rather odd if doing it too even I'm sincere of it. I don't even feel like doing any of it at all. Especially if people kept misinterpreting; very more so if they cannot be reasoned with. Probably either because I don't perceive anything painful in any social faux pas, or really had enough of thinking about it.

Unless crying or anger is involved either ways...

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