Things that neurotypicals say that annoy you

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I am posting this because I feel no one understands me because of my autism so I want to vent a bit but also see what others think.

My big two things that neurotypical people say that annoy me:

1. You aren't bad autistic

Than that same person will get upset at my behaviors or the things I say...... What?

2. Autism is an excuse

This makes me wish I could trade shoes with someone for a day but only a day cause I really don't want to be someone that can come to the above conclusions. I also find the second one very rude but I receive it a lot, including from my current "friends". If my autism is an excuse for bad behavior than does that mean that people's stupidity is an excuse to be rude?

"Why don't you just try harder / You aren't really trying" (to be socially successful, based on their definition)

"Can't you act NORMAL?"

"Its easy you just have to make her laugh!"

I can't act normal, because there is no such a thing as a normal act..
I don't think I could let myself get offended by something so nonsensible..

I don't get offended by that--I get annoyed.

People frequently don't know what you and I know---that there is no "normal" per se.

My mother has a Master's Degree--in Social Work! She wholeheartedly believes in the concept of "normal."

Yeah, I see what you mean..
I mistyped, I meant annoyed not offended..

I'll edit it here

"I can't act normal, because there is no such a thing as a normal act..
I don't think I could let myself get annoyed something so nonsensible..

Whenever I do blend in somewhat, it truly is an act. Sometimes it's a wonderful, graceful performance; other times it might most kindly be described as an awkward comedy. One chosen, intentional, learned behavior after another, just trying to keep up, without actually knowing "why" for any of them. Like getting the lead part in a foreign play without actually knowing a word of the language. All to fit in or at least not "other" myself too badly for a few minutes. And then the curtain falls. I return to my dressing room, close the door, remove my makeup and costume and enjoy a few minutes alone, with no audience and no one to disappoint.

"You're smart/an adult/able to do something similar to this/whatever, so there's no reason you can't do x, y, and z, too."

Like that means anything at all...

Last edited by Quill on 02 Oct 2015, 11:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Yes! This is very relatable and a great way to describe what it's like to try to act "normal". It's exhausting.

I let people know I'm different from them. And I let myself remind that people are all different as well.

I enjoy making people's face dumfounded for their sake, as I thought they should get used to all different living creatures, especially humans are most complex chaotic creatures..there should not exist the same two individuals in the universe.

If anyone thinks there is such a normal, common, typical thing, their life starts to get easily annoyed.
I feel pity for them.

If anyone thinks they can group even most like-mined people in one and condemn or judge them, they should suffer from their own unstable logic at some point..

"You can't be autistic - you're nothing like Rain Man!"

Actually, it's true that I am not exactly like Rain Man. Who was not exactly like Kim Peek (may he rest in peace), the character upon which Rain Man (Raymond) was based. Who was not exactly like Temple Grandin. Who is not exactly like Raun Kaufman. Anyone sensing a pattern here?

But honestly. I get tired of the "Rain Man" thing. I try to be understanding, though. I don't know everything about every single condition or diagnosis that exists. I might be saying really stupid things about someone else without realizing it. So...I try to keep that perspective. It's not like autism FAQ sheets are mailed to everyone's door annually or anything.

"You need to get laid"

You don't seem autistic to me.

What is it like to be autistic?

How do you get through life every day as an autistic person?

#1. I never knew there was an autistic look, unless you're talking about Rain Man.

#2. You'd probably be disappointed with my answer that I like to celebrate the differences that my life with autism brings to me.

#3. The same as everybody else. Why do you ask?

You could bounce that one right back at them, for example, "you can fix a car, why can't you fix a computer???" It makes about as much sense.

Oh, that's a good idea. Thanks!