Bad gift ideas

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I am sure this was already a discussion thread, but here it goes. Has there been a loveday one who told you,in frank or not so frank manner, that your gift choice was not a good choice?
This year I was responsible for getting my spouse her stocking stuffers. I decided to give her toiletries and as a result she informed me that toiletries are not gifts and anything she can get for herself is also not a gift. Who know?

Everyone learns this the hard way, aspie or not.

Never, ever (not ever) buy your wife a kitchen appliance for Christmas unless she absolutely insists on having it.

Toiletries like nice shower gel, bath bombs and nice soap is fine. Don't buy toothpaste or shampoo sort of things. I would say that's pretty accurate for most people.

Obviously never buy someone a gift you full well know will be useless to them or buying them something only you will like you know they won't like.

Never buy someone a gift just for so they can fix your car or something or repair something in your home.

Been there, done that! When I was in my 20s, my first partner was amazing at gift giving. Me, not so much. On our first X-mas together, I was very excited to give him a... coat tree! He didn't have any other place to put his coat in his apartment, so I figured it was a great idea at the time. I didn't get the fact that he expected something a little more romantic/heartfelt. As a matter of fact, when he saw the box, he laughed and said he couldn't wait to see what was inside, thinking I had joked about giving him a coat tree. When he saw that it actually was a coat tree, the look on his face was priceless, but not in a positive way. lol

That being said, I'm sorry to hear your partner didn't like your gift. I believe gift giving is very personal. One person might find a gift wonderful and someone else wouldn't like it at all. It's difficult to shop for someone else.

Just so you know you're not alone in that thought process: I love to get gifts that are unusual. That's a bit of discovery. But, the one's I am most grateful for are the things you described. It means I don't have to go out and buy that crap. Relief from that chore really is a happy time for me.

I'd have been thrilled!! I love practical gifts. And, if it's well made, I'll use it for years until it's lost or broken beyond repair.

I got my mom a bar of soap that came in a music box. I liked the song and the soap smelled good so i got her it. My husband told me that was not a very good present. My mom opened it on Christmas and she liked it.

I saw a dog shaming kit and I wanted to get it for my brother and my mom didn't like the idea or the present I wanted to give him. She thought dog shaming was dumb because how do you shame an animal? I told her it's done as a joke and she told me she thinks it's all stupid and my brother wouldn't do that to his dog. I ended up not getting him that gift.I did ask for her opinion when i showed her the gift idea.

I got my husband a bunch of quirky gifts. I got him a back scratcher that was shaped like a rake, I got him a table mini ping pong game, I got him a little t thing that is shaped like a human and you put tea in it and put it in your cup and it looks like the person is Jacuzzing in your tea. I also got him a tea set that was Keep Calm and it had a British flash on the tray and cup holder and on the coffee cup. He liked them all and I suck at giving gifts because I can't figure out what to get people.

I once was shopping for a baby shower for my brother's ex girlfriend and I got her a used baby gift and my mom told me you don't get people used baby items for a baby shower, you get them a brand new item. So she helped me picked out what baby thing to get her. But my in laws got used used baby things anyway for our kids, especially for a baby shower. But they are poor so I understand they can't afford brand new things so lot of their gifts for my children are used. They buy brand new things sometimes.

My parents once got me a tool set that was also a repair kit for a Christmas present and it was just so we could fix the dent in our apartment wall my husband did unintentionally. I also thought it was a joke so I expected a real present but that was their real present and I didn't feel it was a real gift. From what I understood, you don't buy people things just so they can fix something and have it be a gift, that is what I had learned in my English class when I was 15 but my parents had done it.