what things do you find RUDE from NT?

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This is my quote with the right quotes:

I am asperger. i do not read between lines. I read ALL caps only.

I find NT behavior confusing to begin with, so I actually have trouble knowing whether an NT is being rude. I guess I just figure they're just 'acting NT', and I'm the one that doesn't understand it.

I don't find that NTs are more or less polite than AS. It generally more depends on the level of education.

However, i am AS, i find that NT politeness is in some cases hiding a fear of hurting each other's ego and this causes me feeling uncomfortable because i consider it is lies, or at least lack of truth.

I noticed however that between "good friends", NT use less politeness, probably because there is more trust.

I think that most AS make less difference between friends or not friends. It think that AS like truth, and hence may appear less polite in the sense that they less fear to hurt others' ego if they say something negative. When i receive a negative comment, i am also not hurt, i'm happy because it helps me improving, but i know most NT do not see it like this at all.

It is not NT criticism, NT simply have another way of functioning which i find difficult to understand because i find it less efficient.

I find it rude when NTs see Autism as a disease or equivalent to mental retardation, I actually wrote a short article about it on my Tumblr blog, it bothered me that much.

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Ya, I'm weird like that...

Find it difficult to answer given that I don't have a NT detection satellite at my disposal. My self pity gauge is however working overtime in thisthread.

When I'm not bothering anyone, and all of a sudden someone says "Dianthus you're so quiet" in a really obnoxious tone of voice, so that everyone turns to stare at me and then they all start trying to force me to join their conversation.

When I walk into a store, and I am busily heading in the direction of whatever I want to buy, but a clerk actually moves in front of me and blocks my path to ask if I need help.

When people talk "at" me from across a crowded room, or behind my back, without coming closer or using my name or otherwise doing something to get my attention first.

When a person asks me a question, and instead of letting me answer in my own words, gives me a rapid fire multiple choice of answers, or just answers the question for me as if they think they already know what I'm going to say.

Worse, when someone asks me a question, and someone else automatically answers for me as if I'm not there.

Even worse yet, when a person asks someone else a question about me as if I'm not there.

When a person thinks I'm not doing something the correct way, or fast enough, and they yank something out of my hands and try to do it for me.

Staring at me for more than three seconds.

Using a weird tone of voice with me.

Talking to me like I'm younger.

Talking to me when I'm listening to music.

Not making an effort to make the conversation interesting for me and getting mad when I avoid talking to you for too long.

This isn't really rude, but I find it irritating when people use my name too much.

"Behaviour technicians" joining WP in the guise of 'being interested in how you parent your autistic child' - we had one today in GAD - the stupidity and cupidity of the idea that autism is 'just a set of behaviours' done by autistic people and can or should be fixed by doing certain behaviours to them is grossly offensive to me and the rudest of all NT behaviours on a forum level here - the very assumption is insulting and coming here to recruit business in sly ways really annoys me.

Today's example is this thread and accompanying profile:
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I'll try keep the list short.

Probably the most offensive thing about Neuraltypicals is their bigotry and ignorance.

It really pushes all berserk buttons when they embrace stereotypes as absolute fact.

Stereotypes like everyone with Autism is ret*d, Sociopaths don't have emotions, or Psychopaths can't feel remorse.

Really stupid ignorant nonsense that would instantly be proven false if they actually took the time and energy to meet and speak with these people.

Alas, it doesn't appear like these stereotypes are going to disappear anytime soon. Still, I'll fight against stupidity and ignorance where ever it appears.

That people with Autism are some of the smartest people that I know, that Sociopaths are some of the most emotional people I know, that Psychopaths can be some of the most remorseful and atoning people I've ever had the pleasure of meeting. I just have to fight senseless bigotry and ignorance one step at a time.

I did think of one thing that seems pretty firmly NT. I call it "doubling down on stupid".

This is when someone makes a mistake or gets caught in an obvious lie (not the white lies we're talking about, but actually bad ones), and rather than owning it they become upset that they're being called on their behavior and come up with really ham-fisted or half-assed excuses that make it painfully obvious what they're trying to do. It's a waste of everyone's time, given that the end result is everyone thinking even less of them than they would have if they just took responsibility.

Most autistic people I've met would behave differently in these situations. Thankfully, most NTs will too.