High functioning autism and Adapative functioning

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I would advise against proclaiming to the rest of the world that you have a high IQ. Figuratively, it's likely to come back and bite you on the arse.

I am not proclaiming the rest of the world. I am saying (what is true) here for the sole purpose of proving the adaptive disability of being high IQ. And the previous response to my post was confirming it i.e..

In my life, i know that showing you are clever is disabling as showed above, it triggers misunderstanding and assumption that you are "arrogant". That is why i pretend to be stupid all the time, it works very good, people like it. It prevents "bitings"

From the beginning of primary school to the end of my Masters I wasn't given any study skills lessons. I live in a neighbourhood which is not known for it's good education so my guess is that study skills just weren't taught here. Then at university I think they assumed we must have already learned that stuff before we began so it wasn't taught there either. It was only when I went on to train in teaching that I finally got to learn about how to study and learn. That said, I know this has changed considerably since I was in school - my son has had lots of support in understanding learning methods and study skills.






I think talking about a high IQ in this context is OK. I don't think LaetiBlabla is being arrogant - just saying how it affects her/him.

Since you choose to reference my reply without saying anything other than it's a misunderstanding, well, that would be wrong. I am saying that you came here saying that (1) being smart is a disability. That makes no sense as intelligence does not stop you from doing anything. Then you say (2) that others are not smart enough to understand you.

That is an arrogant assumption. And, instead of trying to explain, you just pass it off and a 'misunderstanding'. The implication is that I am too stupid (and others) to understand you.

It is not a misunderstanding based on what you say. You may have the problem I have in that what you want to say is not what comes out. But, to assume others are not smart enough to understand is arrogance.

I will tell you like I say to others. If EVERYONE has the same trouble, and you are the only common denominator, then maybe you should evaluate what you are really saying and not what you mean. And, try doing it without denigrating others.

I would disagree in this specific way: LaetiBlabla has specifically said that others treat him/her badly because he/she is smart. Instead of clarifying, as most here will do, he/she is just saying the same thing without any examples or anything else. And, when you are saying that all people are this way, and never looking to see if it may be a communication error, then that is arrogance.

I've tried to work around the bad English. English is obviously the second or third language at play here. But instead of adapting, or even trying to adapt to make something better understood, he/she is exhibiting the very behaviour being described.

I get it. I'm usually three or more steps ahead of people in almost all interactions. But, I have to work my ass off to be understood. When I can find a way for them to understand, then it's good. But, it is my communications that are off. Not their reception of information.

Maybe I do have to dumb it down sometimes because not everyone is technical or whatever. But it is exhausting. I am tired of doing it. I am tired of being misunderstood.

But, it is my problem to overcome because I do not communicate the same way others receive it. It is not intelligence that gets in my way. It is the communication issues. It is because people can see my intelligence that they probably put up with all my other crap.

Autism is the disability, not the intelligence.

Last edited by zkydz on 21 Feb 2016, 1:01 pm, edited 1 time in total.

With a high IQ, it feels like everyone around you is slow so you are surrounded by a bunch of idiots who can't get simple things. Also you get bored in class because work is too easy and you have to listen to the teacher talk about assignments and you already get it and when a teacher explains a math problem, you already get it but you are forced to sit there and listen. No wonder why kids with high IQs tend to get into trouble. Then there are kids who have low self esteem because they feel dumb so they feel better by being mean to the intelligent child and bullying them.

But IMO if the child was pushing their smarts on them and making them feel bad by calling them dumb and stuff and being all critical about them not knowing things at their level and understanding things at their level, then they don't deserve respect.

I can understand why it might be seen as a disability by some because these children need to be accommodated by being given more challenging school work. Like instead of doing 3rd grade math like their other classmates, they are doing 5th grade math and reading at the seventh grade level.

In general, I don't find smartness to be disabling, I would say it is able-ing.

No one taught me study skills. I went to crappy schools and I don't recall being taught by my parents. I never had to study until college. Unfortunately, once homework began to count towards the grade in late elementary school, I went from straight A's to D's and F's because I couldn't remember to and/or couldn't make myself do the homework.

I began to have trouble keeping track of all the assignments and different classes in middle school. I did well on all the tests, but that wasn't enough. Eventually I dropped out of high school, but it was for different reasons.

I had to teach myself study skills at college. I didn't do a very good job. I couldn't ever take more than 2 classes at a time, because I couldn't keep track of everything, became stressed, would develop terrible anxiety and eventually shut down and withdraw from the class.

Now I'm asking my therapist to help me teach myself study skills and other ways to adapt so that I can do more at once.

My apologises for the misunderstanding, but again I believe there's a modicum of arrogance in your post. You have bracketed "what is true" in an attempt to once more validate that you are a man/woman of high intellect.

I'm not ganging up on LaetiBlabla here. But, it does echo, and in a much nicer way than my attempt, to illustrate that the way it's being communicated is demeaning.

It really seems as if anybody questions the assertions, it's brushed aside and then put forth it's because the other people are not smart enough to understand and then just ignored as if the word has been spoken and we cannot question the assertions.

And, quite frankly Jake, I see the difference in your post and mine, and I applaud your wording and communications. Much better than my attempt. I do not see you as someone lacking in intelligence. Maybe have a hard time getting out in many situations, but here, I have always enjoyed your posts and the give and take you can engage in. I think I'm a pretty bright guy. And then I see your words and thoughts and I see that my communications are not as good as yours. So, between the two of us, I am not as accomplished as you are.

My two cents.

Maybe high IQ is more disabling when coupled with AS.

I was not changed class despite my IQ "because maturity level and need to stay with children of her age for social skills development". So, indeed getting extremely bored for some subjects, disabled for others (dyslexia) misunderstood, resulting even in will to fail.

For what they called "maturity", it was undiagnosed AS.
(e.g. when i was 7-year-old, i was not communicating during the school breaks, i was putting myself to for legs and imitating barking in order to try to "enter in communication" with others...) ...fortunately, i improved my social skills a lot and can follow a "normal life" with an acceptable level of social skills, although, i still need to improve a lot.

I think high IQ is more disabling when coupled with AS because they do not change you class, and maybe it is a good choice, i don't know what is better.

That I can go along with. My brain screams at me all the time because I have trouble saying what needs to come out in a way that makes sense to other people. And it's worse when I have to be with people. I just babble and go off on tangents. At least here I have the filter of proofreading, taking my time and STILL get it messed up.

After 55 years, I have realized it is my inability to communicate properly. And, I do think that having truly deep thoughts or insights that you cannot express or share or even articulate because of AS makes it much worse. I know it does for me.

And, thank you for clarifying. It made all the difference. I understand and agree now.

I have poor executive functioning but cannot rely on lists and notes because when I take notes on anything I always think am writing all the information I need but I never do. Even knowing this doesn't make a difference.

I have a high IQ, or at least I did when I was younger. But I lack street smarts so I am stupid in a lot of ways and always feel like I am smart and stupid at the same time.
Around other people I always feel stupid, not smart.

What I am smart at depends on how interested I am and the things I am interested in tend to be scientific things and the more they interest me the more I like learning about and thinking about.

Whilst I love to receive compliments, zkydz, I must disagree with you on this occasion. I am terrible at expressing my ideas and views on subjects, both in spoken and written language. Unfortunately this has been a problem of mine for as long as I can remember.

From my perspective, you are doing yourself a gross disservice by what you stated in the post that I have quoted above. Personally, I would consider writing to be a strength of yours; it's very clear and engaging to read.

That's just because I can take time to reply. I can fumble about on words, backspace, erase, proofread....all those things I can't do in a personal situation.

My thought process is visual. It does not lend itself well to many things. Especially if the wrong 'word picture' or 'number picture' pops into my head. Last month, I wrote the check for the rent by $20.00 shy. I had the wrong 'number picture' in my head. Proofread it several times. But because the writing matched the mental picture, I didn't catch it.

It's really bad when I'm searching for a word and the 'Rolodex of 'bad words'' starts up and one of them gets used instead. Talking about destroying credibility, but also makes people think the wrong things about you. And, if you ever try to explain how that works, they just think you're making really, really bad excuses.

I’m sorry, but you do NOT ”agree and understand”.
You misunderstood my quote or distorted it. If you read carefully, it is not about about speach but about not changing classroom despite high IQ.

You may disagree, but I wish you do not misunderstand or distort what I say so, here is my full quote:
"Maybe high IQ is more disabling when coupled with AS.

I was not changed class despite my IQ "because maturity level and need to stay with children of her age for social skills development". So, indeed getting extremely bored for some subjects, disabled for others (dyslexia) misunderstood, resulting even in will to fail.

For what they called "maturity", it was undiagnosed AS.
(e.g. when i was 7-year-old, i was not communicating during the school breaks, i was putting myself to for legs and imitating barking in order to try to "enter in communication" with others...) ...fortunately, i improved my social skills a lot and can follow a "normal life" with an acceptable level of social skills, although, i still need to improve a lot.

I think high IQ is more disabling when coupled with AS because they do not change you class, and maybe it is a good choice, i don't know what is better."