Things NTs do that appear rude

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I've noticed that a lot of NTs do things that I'm surprised aren't considered rude. Or maybe they are, but no one's said anything.

Interrupting a conversation to say 'hi'. This happens a lot at my church. Whether it's me talking to friends, my parents talking to me, or my parents talking to friends, people are always interrupting to say hi. This alone might not be considered rude (though it does annoy me to no end), but sometimes the newcomer will start asking a bunch of other questions and start their own conversation with the person. Sometimes I'm interrupted mid-sentence. I just don't understand how this is socially acceptable.

Talking to someone who's reading a book. "What are you reading?" "Do you like it?" "What's it about?" "Are you seeing the movie?" "My daughter's read that!" It's probably not just NTs who do this, but enough people do so it seems to be normal behavior.

Has anyone else noticed something that NTs—or just people in general—do that appears rude to you?

Interrupting people when they're saying something. I've noticed this happen in a group of NT friends. It's annoying, because autistic people are told not to interrupt others, but NTs do the same thing all the time and they aren't thought of as rude or weird for it.

Not responding when someone tries to join a conversation, if that person is considered weird or doesn't fit in.

Not including everyone in a conversation. Ignoring certain people in the group.

Saying things behind people's backs that they would never say to their face.

Whispering during a talk or performance.

You're talking to someone on the phone and they start talking to you.

...and then THEY get upset when I show them the palm of my hand to make them stop since I can't keep track of what two people are saying at once, each in one of my ears.

Just in general not showing interest in me. I'm one of those people that finds everything about the world and other people fascinating and always wants to hear more. I love hearing new things and listening to people talk, even if I don't know them well at all. I always give my undivided attention if someone wants to tell me something. It also makes me feel liked if someone voluntarily wants to share something with me. But (excluding the few friends I have) I feel like no one cares about anything I enjoy or want to say, nor do they enjoy my company, and they don't even pretend to. I wish in the adult world friendships worked like in childhood.

Another thing I've never understood is how people never have time for friends. Instead they're caught up with their partner/spouse/whatever, or with work/school, or family issues, or whatever. Always. Again I wish this worked like in childhood... all you had to do was go knock on the door and ask "wanna come out and play?". (of course I would prefer a phone call to a knock on the door so that I have slightly more time to adjust to the abrupt change of schedule and won't get a panic attack haha )

Sorry these are kind of broad, don't know if this post even answers the original question haha.

Loud music. To this day I just don't get the neurotypical fascination of having to blare up the music to ungodly levels and act like a douche. It's worse because as an autistic person I'm noise-sensitive. Hell, my school does this a lot during lunch time. Never understood why NTs don't understand the concept of peace and quiet.

In that regard, it's freaking hypocrisy why I'm not allowed to listen to my headphones in class. Again, a lot NTs feel the need to be as loud as they can in school, and listening to my headphones helps at least block out their muck. Unfortunately some teachers have such a hard time grasping the concept of moderately-paced music allowing me to do my work in peace. Basically, I consider loudness to be an incredibly rude thing that NTs do, and they're hypocrites about it as well.

Talking like Valley Girls and rolling their eyes, if they're female.

Talking like chavs and making hand gestures, if they're male.

Walking into a room where people are having a consideration, whether it's private or not, and jumping their way into the conversation too. I notice people doing this all the time, and then one time when I done it (I was interested in some sort of casual gossip), they verbally attacked me, making me feel humiliated. Double standards.

When people start whispering about somebody and making it obvious to that person. I could never do that. I hate making someone feel self-conscious about themselves, and I'd thought NTs would know better than me to feel that way too.

Interrupting is a very big one.

Perhaps if you speak softly and monotone, then they assume what you're saying isn't of value.

Also they will break in and try to change the subject before you are finished speaking about something.

They try to hurry you through explanations by telling you "yes I understand/know" when they really do not have a functional understanding at all.

Sudden touching as a greeting. A sudden pat on the back quite makes me jump, if it catches me off guard.

Greetings in general are distracting. Unless the greeting person needs something from me.

Topic switching. What are they, trying to avoid something?

Interruptions. This is why I fade away in group conversations. I kept feeling that none of them are giving me a chance.

Talking about what they're currently watching/reading/listening. Or just unnecessary talking. It's distracting, seriously. Especially spoilers involved.

That 'look' when a group of people seem to be talking about you...

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Many years ago, I used to take lunch to work. Because I have a number of food issues, my lunch was a bit different from the mainstream sandwiches and bikkies.
Without fail, whenever I took out my lunch someone would peer into my lunchbox and exclaim loudly, "What are you eating!?" Like I was eating poop or something. Of course, then everyone at the table would look at my lunch and proclaim it weird. As a result of this, I haven't eaten lunch at work for nine years.
They now have the rudeness to ask, "Why aren't you eating?"
Because f**k you, that's why.

When you're talking to them, suddenly breaking away from the conversation to say hello to another person.

Sharing secretive looks with another person when someone says something "weird". I HATE this.

I agree about the touching thing. I don't mind being hugged, but I don't like being randomly patted. After someone touches me, I always rub the area they touched, as if to wipe away the feeling of their touch.