First support group meeting
2.) There are a few Aspies here who speak of their places being super neat because of aspects of their conditions. And, I...well, I am the opposite extreme. So, I think you are correct by way of sampling here. Never been to another's house, and knew they were Aspie before, so we shall see.
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RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
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2.) There are a few Aspies here who speak of their places being super neat because of aspects of their conditions. And, I...well, I am the opposite extreme. So, I think you are correct by way of sampling here. Never been to another's house, and knew they were Aspie before, so we shall see.
I went to a few other aspie's places in order to help them neaticize their places, one in support of their move to another place. imagine that, ME the hoarder helping some other hoarder tidy up! sorta like a tone-deaf amusical person teaching another such person how to play an instrument or something.
2.) There are a few Aspies here who speak of their places being super neat because of aspects of their conditions. And, I...well, I am the opposite extreme. So, I think you are correct by way of sampling here. Never been to another's house, and knew they were Aspie before, so we shall see.
I went to a few other aspie's places in order to help them neaticize their places, one in support of their move to another place. imagine that, ME the hoarder helping some other hoarder tidy up! sorta like a tone-deaf amusical person teaching another such person how to play an instrument or something.
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
I really need to find a group. It sounds like it would be interesting. Now that I've seen that other people go and enjoy it, I am thinking that I might enjoy meeting people like me. I guess I will have to force myself to try to go.
But the whole idea makes me nervous. Maybe because we're stereotyped as awkward nerds. I'm imagining a scenario where the entire group is composed of skinny guys wearing glasses talking about nothing but anime and computers in monotonous voices. There's nothing wrong with that, but I would probably have little in common with them.
I would not want to be the only female in the group, and I would like to have at least some interests in common with the other people there. I actually have many interests, and am naturally curious about things, so there are a wide variety of things that I would be willing to discuss. However, there are many things which I know nothing about, and I wouldn't know anything worth adding to a conversation, especially if they are special interests of another person.
I know that I'm eccentric, but if everyone is much more eccentric than I am, it's still going to feel as though I'm on the wrong planet. Maybe I'm just worrying too much.
But the whole idea makes me nervous. Maybe because we're stereotyped as awkward nerds. I'm imagining a scenario where the entire group is composed of skinny guys wearing glasses talking about nothing but anime and computers in monotonous voices. There's nothing wrong with that, but I would probably have little in common with them.
I would not want to be the only female in the group, and I would like to have at least some interests in common with the other people there. I actually have many interests, and am naturally curious about things, so there are a wide variety of things that I would be willing to discuss. However, there are many things which I know nothing about, and I wouldn't know anything worth adding to a conversation, especially if they are special interests of another person.
I know that I'm eccentric, but if everyone is much more eccentric than I am, it's still going to feel as though I'm on the wrong planet. Maybe I'm just worrying too much.
And, I've been around the mathletes, drama geeks and all that stuff. They're awkward, know it and don't give a damn. They are amongst people who understand.
And, yeah, you;re over thinking it....how do I know? I did and continue to do the same thing...it's the mental variation of, "He who smelt it, dealt it."
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
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you may be pleasantly surprised. my group has all genders and ages. but we're mostly working class.
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I hope that is the case for any group that I try to join. I don't want to feel like the odd one when I'm in a group especially for people who are always the odd ones. Because in that case, I might as well just give up on socializing altogether and stay in my house all the time, which is basically what I do now.
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I hope that is the case for any group that I try to join. I don't want to feel like the odd one when I'm in a group especially for people who are always the odd ones. Because in that case, I might as well just give up on socializing altogether and stay in my house all the time, which is basically what I do now.
I screwed up my courage and went, and never looked back. what one can do that is helpful, is concentrate on trying to find commonalities. try to hear their stories and find something in them that resonates with you. I think you are brave, you can do it.
Thank you I will try. I'm actually a very friendly person, so if others are friendly towards me, that's usually enough. I just usually find that people think I'm too friendly or familiar. So I compensate by being formal, and then I'm considered to be too formal I don't get people.
I hope that is the case for any group that I try to join. I don't want to feel like the odd one when I'm in a group especially for people who are always the odd ones. Because in that case, I might as well just give up on socializing altogether and stay in my house all the time, which is basically what I do now.
I screwed up my courage and went, and never looked back. what one can do that is helpful, is concentrate on trying to find commonalities. try to hear their stories and find something in them that resonates with you. I think you are brave, you can do it.
I am not condemning. Took me 7 months to go to one and I went for two reasons only.
1.) I new the place and the people running it. That gave a sense of familiarity
2.) I was invited at eval results and I hoped that one of the team would be there.
My problem was just getting on the damned train and going somewhere new. Ugggghhhhh.....
I plan on going to the next one next week. We shall see LOL
That will be different....
There were all sorts of people from all levels of disability and success. It was the first I attended so, it's going to take a while to see who sticks and who doesn't.
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
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the thing to remember, is that such a group is your prime chance to be around people that expect you to be yourself, it is your chance to just be you, as everybody else is just being themselves as well. take nothing personally [except for compliments] as it is just reflective of their [other folks] own reality and not of you specifically.
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what I sometimes do that is helpful, is to write stuff down on paper, thataways I can just look next to the bullet points I wrote and remind myself of what I wanted to say and why I wanted to say it. also, write stuff down in general next to the name of the person who said it, whenever you want to ask them something about their own situation or what they said about it.
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