I don't think I have enough symptoms to be on spectrum

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I have a very hard time connecting with people and I often don't trust many ppl. I think I'm probably more socially disconnected than a lot of aspies but I don't have any trouble with other aspects of life like traveling and shopping etc. I don't stim and I think I can read people though I give some minimal eye contact. I'm not sure if I really have asperges or if I just can't connect to people.

Do you have any special interest you spend lots of time on? repeat actions or watch the same movies over and over? Do you like walking in patterns on tiles (pavement). Are you technical inclined? Do you collect <insert object> and know everything about this <insert object>?

These are some of the things I do/have besides having trouble with communication.

Try some of the aspie test, like the AQ and Aspie test:
http://www.wired.com/2001/12/aqtest/
http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php

Many Aspies have no trouble with shopping or travelling.

The kinds of issues you have in your life that you post about here on WP scream "autism!" loud and clear it seems to me. Like your difficulties negotiating social straits in college, and the like.

Autism isn't having certain symptoms.

Autism is having difficulties/deficits as a product of certain symptoms.

You could work your way through a 'characteristics of autism' list and tick every box - but not have the associated difficulties. You wouldn't be autistic.

Difficulty connecting with people/lack of trust/minimal eye contact isn't necessarily autism - it could be a sign of trauma from past abuse, it could be social anxiety etc.

Or you may just be shy, and a little cautious (rather than having a condition with a label).


In any instance, your doctor would be able to give you the information you need.


Personally, I wouldn't go to my doctors because I felt a little disconnected from people. I wouldn't want to waste their time. maybe everyone feels 'disconnected', and it's what it means to be an individual.

I guess I do have special interests. I have compulsive type things I do that are really difficult to stop and I think it's a bit like a behavioural addiction. Im getting support to help me with that... maybe it will be helpful. I don't have such strong interests as some other ppl tho and my interests are not really concrete things but abstract but have been the same for many years, they do influence my social life/lack of though.
Ive been trying to have friends and such but it's getting super difficult.

Idk

It's not because you're awkward that you have difficulty making friends.

It's because you tend to doubt other peoples' intentions, and screw yourself up as a result.

I don't think ppl like me anyplace even when I'm sure not to bother anyone and just do my own things. I don't annoy people on purpose but I think ppl instinctively dont want me around them.

If you're always skeptical about people's intentions, they will notice that. They will become wary, too.

Just don't give strangers your address, or access to your money. And you should be okay with the rest.

Keep an open mind. In my experience, people don't have the time to really screw somebody else--unless they happen to be those who enjoy screwing people.

Most people are cold, rather than actively nasty.

Sometimes I'm not worried by others but then I find I can't handle the normal stuff lke if someone wants to hang out with me. Other day most ppl I knew got invited to a party n I'm the only person that didn't get invited. I don't normally care but since I've been trying my best to be 'normal' I do care. Tho even if I did get invited and went I might not be able to handle that based upon past similar situations.

Thats exactly the kind of stuff you always post about. And it all sounds like you are a textbook example of a person on the autism spectrum.

Traveling and shopping and the ability or not to do them aren't part of the diagnostic criteria. I see on your profile you do have a diagnosis. Meaning that unless the person who diagnosed you was incompetent, you meet the criteria and fall withing the range of what is deemed to be autistic traits. As is said over and over on WP, not everyone has the exact same level of ability with some of the skills that fall outside of actual criteria requirements. And not everyone with the same diagnosis manifests the same.

Well i beleive a person can diagnose themself as much as they can undiagnose themselfs. Unless of course you arent diagnosed.

I recomend seeing a psych and getting evaluated or just hold off on any labels. Acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses and forget about the critera

Ok

I don't do/have any of those, even as a small child, yet I was diagnosed with AS at 8 years old, because I was highly anxious in school, had attention and behavioural problems, and was socially awkward. I was naturally interested in other kids and engaged in imaginary play, but was a bit off-ish and awkward at times. I was similar to a spoilt brat with no brothers or sisters, even though I WASN'T a spoilt brat and I WASN'T an only child.

I do wish I had been diagnosed with ADHD, or at least ADD, instead. But everyone seems to stereotype ADHD kids as "extroverted class clown", where as I was very shy in class.

I used to wonder the same for myself (I was diagnosed back in 2013).