Do you like to help out?

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I hate it. Especially when I'm expected to help and I have other things I want to do. For example, my mom picked a difficult recipe to make for dinner. I didn't expect her to put me to work in the kitchen when I had a ton of other things to do. I don't see the need to help when I'm not the one who wanted to make it in the first place. Her asking me to help is almost like lighting me on fire.

Extreme emotions towards doing something I don't want to be doing. Anyone else get like that?

I really don't like to help out, either, especially if someone just asks me out of the blue and I was either in the middle of doing something else or was about to start doing something else. I make specific plans and I don't want them interrupted.

Plus, I prefer to do things by myself, and firmly avoid asking anyone for help unless there's no other option. I don't like to seem needy or be a bother to other people, and I would prefer it if others were the same way. I don't like that I do all my own work plus some of others'.

I don't mind helping people. If I see someone struggling with something, I'll go help them. People in my CS classes tend to ask me for help about things they don't understand, and it's something that I'm interested in and good at, so I like helping others with this. However, it really irritates me when I'm already doing something and get interrupted by someone to do something else. I lose focus.

I actually love helping people out. I try to do good deeds whenever I can and I don't mind going out of my way to assist people at all.

I like helping others as long as I don't feel like I'm being taken advantage of.

I like helping out in principle, but it's often hard for me to intuitively know precisely what to do, and I'm reluctant to guess, because knowing my luck I'll probably end up making things worse. And I feel guilty, stupid and useless for being that way. But when I happen to guess right, or when I'm told exactly what's wanted, it's great.

I like to help out. It seems to me I'm a useless creature, so whenever I have the opportunity to be useful to someone else I will. It's just so,e times not as easy as it seems with all my difficulties.

i do like to help and be useful, and sometimes i even feel a need to be useful, but i have a lot of trouble with time management. so to me the problem isn't really about anybody asking me for help, it's the "right now" part of it. just like if anyone invited me to go out right now (hypothetical. i don't have any friends irl). unless i happen to be bored and really just doing nothing, it's a no-no

I don't mind if it's something I can do.

Exactly this.
I like helping and being useful but only if I have some time to mentally prepare for it. When someone suddenly tells me "Can you come down and help me out?" I feel angry and answer "No."/"<angry>RIGHT NOW?!". Then I come in about 5 minutes, asking "What did you need from me?", already calm and willing to help.
Interruptions is what I hate, not helping.

If it's not interrupting something I'm doing, then yes.


I enjoy helping people out- especially if they are feeling sad or lonely.

As I feel those feelings and it is not a pleasant thing.

I don't work well under pressure, and having to do a new task unexpectedly and with little notice is very out of my comfort zone and does make me feel like I'm going to screw up.

Otherwise, I actually enjoy helping others.

I like help out if I get the same in return.

I'm a blood donor registered with the Red Cross.

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It took decades to see I needed a better attitude and action plan at home to match.