OMGpenguin wrote:
I get really frustrated when people don't follow up with what they say, even if it is trivial.
That, too. I used to have all sorts of painful misunderstood occasions when people said things like "I'll call/write/see you soon"-though they never did.
Only recently have I read about this dx, never knew what I was missing while growing up & no one could tell me. Still can't determine when people are "just" saying the words/going through the social motions, vs. when they're being authentic/realistic in their appraisals of self & others.
I've learned to resist the urge to seem polite & saying I'd contact someone or do something somewhere. I don't want to disappoint people the way they've done to me, don't want to lie for sake of seeming nice, agreeable, and cooperative. Sure, I'm kinda' direct or harsh, but I apologize & explain a lot to try to make up for it. So, I
don't say I'll be in touch with people or commit to future activities. I still feel torn & conflicted, but I try to remind myself how I prefer to be disliked right away, because it'll happen sooner or later. That I'd rather be honest, admit my faults & my lack of interest in other person or plan-instead of saying what I feel I'm
supposed to.
cowlypso wrote:
Yup. I definitely lose it over little things.
Today I went shopping for bras, because they were having a "buy 2, get 1 free" sale and I had 2 coupons. I went into the store and they only had 2 in my style and size. I asked the lady about it, and she said there wasn't anything she could do there. She said she could sell me one in the wrong size and then I could exchange it at another store (many miles away, and stressful to drive to) for the right size. I asked, and they don't ship between stores, nor would they give me a raincheck for the third bra. Oh, but she did offer that I could "just pick out a different style." Yeah, right! I finally just had to say forget it, left the two bras there, and fought back tears all the way to my car.
First of all, shopping for bras drives me totally crazy, can barely ever force myself to do it. The rest of the situation does sound like type of experiences I've had, as well as how I'd react. I empathize, I've been (and will return, alas) "there". Shopping tends to bring out the worst in me, the least functional (or most uncomfortably self-conscious) level.
I like looking at things, but I don't like people looking at me or around/nearby. Making decisions about what to buy is hard, esp. when nothing ever seems to fit/look/feel quite right.
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