Can an autistic person have better social skills than an NT?
What you say perhaps explains some fraction of the rise in divorce rates. But it does not explain all of it.
For example if divorce rates increased by 50% over the last decades (it is just my guesstimate, I don't have statistical data at hand), then perhaps only 10% can be attributed to what you mentioned, and 40% must be attributed to other factors. These other factors include things such as couples being actually less happy today than they used to be in the past, people being more materialistic and more capricious, meaning that they are more likely to divorce for petty and trivial reasons. Some people also marry for things such as money, instead of love - and these couples are more likely to get divorced.
But a divorce is usually a tragedy (even if a socially acceptable tragedy). And children suffer the most.
Of course sometimes divorce is the best solution, but very often it is better to try to fix your marriage.
But people prefer the "easier way" and break up. Later many of them regret, here is a good example:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artic ... ss-42.html
Actually nothing has changed here.
Some celebrities get divorced literally once a year. And they marry a new partner each year.
They think that a marriage is like a date.
I'm not sure why they even marry, if they already know that it is not going to last for long?
Edit:
They probably seek attention. When celebrities marry and get divorced, it is all over the media.
Many celebrities like to be attention hoes (like this guy from the video, just in different ways):
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... tion%20Hoe
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zi8ShAosqzI
Well, I stand by my original point that if they have learned enough social skills to make autism less noticeable, They wouldn't be autistic anymore, by the very definition.
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The answer to the OP's question is: Improbable, but certainly not impossible. Anything can be learned. Of course, if your IQ is really low that's going to be really difficult...
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Pieplup it is more complicated than that, as are many things in life; and appearances can be deceiving. Personally, I would say I am better in some social situations than some NTs. Success in a social situation is affected by more than just base social talent. Humour, understanding relevant topics of conversation, attitude, quick thinking, prior knowledge of the people involved, etc. can all play a part in the level of success of a social interaction.
No. Aspies can be neckbeards as well. But I think a lot of them are NT or at least non-autistic.
https://www.reddit.com/r/neckbeardstories/
Legbeard = girl neckbeard.
I think neckbeards are just a variety of people autistic or not, possibly with other mental health / neurology conditions and they get lumped into this forum for lack of self awareness.
Define Social skills.
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I don't interact with a lot of people, but I notice at at the doctor's office, I am very polite, calm, and respectful to the receptionists, even when there are problems to work out, whereas a lot of other people are rude and impatient.
But in terms of 'shooting the breeze' and just making small talk - no, I suck at that. Last time the receptionist said something about the weather, and her dog, and I said 'oh'.
No.
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"Does this make me look fat?"
"Yes."
That's not good social skills though, is it? Good social skills include knowing when to lie to spare other people's feelings. The fact that you don't understand this in a way proves why people with ASD struggle with social skills. To give you another example....I'm just not interested in other people and I think that's a large part of why my own social skills are poor. People with good skills seem to be interested in people, seem to want to ask questions and want to get to know people, they want to reciprocate stories and anecdotes. Interest in people is something you can't learn and it's something you can only fake to a certain degree. Most conversations with me end after one, maybe two interactions. I can't keep the conversation flowing because I don't really want to, I don't have anything to ask, I have no interest in this person and that's it....I'm pretending to have just received a text message that I need to deal with immediately.
"Does this make me look fat?"
"Yes."
That's not good social skills though, is it? Good social skills include knowing when to lie to spare other people's feelings. The fact that you don't understand this in a way proves why people with ASD struggle with social skills. To give you another example....I'm just not interested in other people and I think that's a large part of why my own social skills are poor. People with good skills seem to be interested in people, seem to want to ask questions and want to get to know people, they want to reciprocate stories and anecdotes. Interest in people is something you can't learn and it's something you can only fake to a certain degree. Most conversations with me end after one, maybe two interactions. I can't keep the conversation flowing because I don't really want to, I don't have anything to ask, I have no interest in this person and that's it....I'm pretending to have just received a text message that I need to deal with immediately.
You've described how I feel in regards to interest in people. I'm not diagnosed with ASD. I was going to get an assessment, but decided not to. I often find it difficult hold conversations with people when it's not on certain topics. This is especially true when it comes to small talk. What makes it worse it that I'm generally not interested in having these conversations. So, I'm putting in effort to do something that I find challenging with little to no payoff. I don't dislike people and I wouldn't say that I'm disinterested in them as a person like I don't care about them, but I often just don't want to talk to them. I don't get enjoyment out of it like they seem to get. I don't want to be perceived negatively or misunderstood either. So, I will socialize when I don't want to anyway to an extent. It's so draining.
How do you navigate this?
"Does this make me look fat?"
"Yes."
That's not good social skills though, is it? Good social skills include knowing when to lie to spare other people's feelings. .
With regards to your example if my GF asks me a question like that I always ask her if she wants an honest answer.
I think I am clued up enough to lie to spare peoples feelings most of the time ( mistakes do happen though) but I just feel crap for lying
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