Failing others expectations

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I have been struggling lately.

Communicating and socialising (as well as speaking) has been very difficult. Luckily it is summer break so i am able to just chill at home playing my favourite games and listing to music. However i will go on a trip in 5 days and i am worried how my dad and sister will react when i might/will fail at things i used to be good at.


5 years ago i didn't need ear defenders (i did use headphones to listen to music to lessen the overload) but now i need my ear defenders and i just don't want to seem like "i want special attention".

I am considering talking with my dad but finding words is difficult.

i think talking to your dad is a good idea! as for what to say, why not say exactly what you said here in your OP? depends on what your relationship is like i guess but, no harm in trying?

it will show that you are cognizant of how you may "appear" to them re your defenders etc but that you have anxieties related to xyz and need his/the family's understanding.

or, if it helps you, write it down and give it to your dad instead...this way you can formulate your thoughts, be coherent, mention key points that you need raised/addressed and it's all done without any tonal inflections that may be misconstrued.

he may find it odd that you are handing him a letter but just say as you hand him the letter, you are finding it difficult to talk so felt it best to write down your thoughts so there are no misunderstandings?

might work. won't know till you try!

Do they usually make a big deal out of your failing their expectations? I didn't quite understand whether you are just very anxious or concerned about something that has happened before.