Is there anything you like about having AS?
When it all comes down to it, that, logic, ability to understand some things many consider very complicated, learning based on logic/association/patterns, and a HUGE bank of knowledge about interests present and past, are pretty much all the benefits **I** have seen from AS, that I can say at least MOST NT people don't have that have served me well and/or given me joy. But HEY, that DOES go a LONG way to offset the relatively few problems.
NOW, if I could improve my short term memory a bit, increase my confidence in it, and get rid of all the self talk, I would be all set!
Steve
I guess it's hard to figure out what I like about having AS because I've always had it, so I don't really recognize all of the good stuff that comes along with it. The bad stuff is easy to spot (the whole social awkwardness making my life suck thing), but the good stuff doesn't really stand out. Maybe I figure that everybody (NTs included) have the good traits. Also, many of the diagnostic and trait lists for AS focus on the more negative aspects. And a lot of my recent focus has been on the negative aspects with regards to how AS is affecting me in school and how we can work with it.
So I'm looking forward to seeing what people have to say here.
Don't hold back, and listen to what people say and how THEY behave! Some things ***YOU*** take for granted may astound them, and they may mention it.
HECK, just today I asked my mother about how old I was when the doctors said I was allergic to feathers and peanuts. She didn't remember that, even though I have LAUGHED at the prospect for several decades! I had birds I was OK with, and I LOVE peanuts! I told her about how I remembered coming home from the doctor, and was walking into our green home, and we shortly later got rid of my birds. As I recall, we gave them to my uncle, who loved birds. She was ASTOUNDED and mentioned how great my memory is and how I astound her with what I recall, etc... That event happened over 42 years ago, and I was less than 2 years old! As for the times I slip up? The pauses? The lack of recall at times? I have seen this happen with everyone I know, and sometimes a LOT. So I am too hard on myself there.
You are right, the bad is WAY too easy to see. I learned long ago that I should look for failings in other people. NOT to belittle them, etc... Just simply to be able to be able to determine when they are telling you the truth, or not, and be fairer on judging yourself.
HECK, one person mentioned my name, and I asked how she knew. She claimed to have a photographic memory. When I tested her, she FLUNKED! She admited she didn't have a great memory. Her memory is far worse than mine. They obviously heard my name and their incessant use of my first name etched it into their memories.
It is also nice to know that, if someone belittles you for a minor mistake, that you can recall several MAJOR ones they made! I once missed a minor mistake someone else did that was TOO easy to make. Because of that, the project was set 3 hours behind schedule. My Project manager made a few MAJOR mistakes earlier that set the project over a week behind schedule! So I knew he really couldn't blame me.
Steve
If it weren't for my AS symptoms, I would have never gone to London or to Paris and travel around the UK. I would suck at remembering dates because none of them wouldn't be very important to me and I would have never traveled to Spokane and eat at Fergusons and explore the city and see the other Benny & Joon locations. Gosh I wouldn't be a talking encyclopedia then. Sadly I'm afraid I have been losing my good memory in the last few years. Why do you think I ask people the same questions. Because I talk to so many people, it's hard to keep track of whom and when I haven't spoken to someone in a while, I forget about them. Sometimes it all comes back as we start speaking again.
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No...wait, I think I do like something but I'm unsure if it's due to the ASD or not:
Since I've been a constant source for verbal abuse by pretty much everyone throughout my life...it's led to me being somewhat understanding of everyone and what they are; I might just be numb though due to the constant derision....
E: Also, just FYI and all that, personality isn't tied to ASD; otherwise we'd all be the same.... No, everyone here is as diverse as the people "out there".
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I guess it's hard to figure out what I like about having AS because I've always had it, so I don't really recognize all of the good stuff that comes along with it. The bad stuff is easy to spot (the whole social awkwardness making my life suck thing), but the good stuff doesn't really stand out. Maybe I figure that everybody (NTs included) have the good traits. Also, many of the diagnostic and trait lists for AS focus on the more negative aspects. And a lot of my recent focus has been on the negative aspects with regards to how AS is affecting me in school and how we can work with it.
So I'm looking forward to seeing what people have to say here.
Don't hold back, and listen to what people say and how THEY behave! Some things ***YOU*** take for granted may astound them, and they may mention it.
HECK, just today I asked my mother about how old I was when the doctors said I was allergic to feathers and peanuts. She didn't remember that, even though I have LAUGHED at the prospect for several decades! I had birds I was OK with, and I LOVE peanuts! I told her about how I remembered coming home from the doctor, and was walking into our green home, and we shortly later got rid of my birds. As I recall, we gave them to my uncle, who loved birds. She was ASTOUNDED and mentioned how great my memory is and how I astound her with what I recall, etc... That event happened over 42 years ago, and I was less than 2 years old! As for the times I slip up? The pauses? The lack of recall at times? I have seen this happen with everyone I know, and sometimes a LOT. So I am too hard on myself there.
You are right, the bad is WAY too easy to see. I learned long ago that I should look for failings in other people. NOT to belittle them, etc... Just simply to be able to be able to determine when they are telling you the truth, or not, and be fairer on judging yourself.
HECK, one person mentioned my name, and I asked how she knew. She claimed to have a photographic memory. When I tested her, she FLUNKED! She admited she didn't have a great memory. Her memory is far worse than mine. They obviously heard my name and their incessant use of my first name etched it into their memories.
It is also nice to know that, if someone belittles you for a minor mistake, that you can recall several MAJOR ones they made! I once missed a minor mistake someone else did that was TOO easy to make. Because of that, the project was set 3 hours behind schedule. My Project manager made a few MAJOR mistakes earlier that set the project over a week behind schedule! So I knew he really couldn't blame me.
Steve
I'm 22 now and don't remember anything before being 8 years old.
With the exception of tiny schreds of memory that are extremely unclear to me ofcourse.
I can't say i'm proud about my AS because AS has altered my personality considerably to something that isn't really me.
I am however proud about how i am able to deal better with my problems by the week.
The main things i'm training for myself right now are my memory and my social skills.
The social skills are coming around really well.
And i think my memory is soon going to be at a average level for a NT.
AS definately didn't improve my memory, on the contrary.
When i was a kid before my AS set in i had an amazing memory+social skills
The one positive thing that my AS may have done for me was that i was able to speak fluent English at 10 years old.
This was 2 years after we got cable and i saw the first movies in English on the television.
That has made it easyer to communicate when abroad in Europe.
Unfortunately it seems most people in other European countrys never really bothered to learn proper English
When people talk about how i used to be it always stuns me.
It was the total opposite of how i was a few years ago.
I think NTs are intrisecaly as diverse as we are, anyway they "play the same game" and look for the same, thus, they achive it, we dont.
I guess it's hard to figure out what I like about having AS because I've always had it, so I don't really recognize all of the good stuff that comes along with it. The bad stuff is easy to spot (the whole social awkwardness making my life suck thing), but the good stuff doesn't really stand out. Maybe I figure that everybody (NTs included) have the good traits. Also, many of the diagnostic and trait lists for AS focus on the more negative aspects. And a lot of my recent focus has been on the negative aspects with regards to how AS is affecting me in school and how we can work with it.
So I'm looking forward to seeing what people have to say here.
Don't hold back, and listen to what people say and how THEY behave! Some things ***YOU*** take for granted may astound them, and they may mention it.
HECK, just today I asked my mother about how old I was when the doctors said I was allergic to feathers and peanuts. She didn't remember that, even though I have LAUGHED at the prospect for several decades! I had birds I was OK with, and I LOVE peanuts! I told her about how I remembered coming home from the doctor, and was walking into our green home, and we shortly later got rid of my birds. As I recall, we gave them to my uncle, who loved birds. She was ASTOUNDED and mentioned how great my memory is and how I astound her with what I recall, etc... That event happened over 42 years ago, and I was less than 2 years old! As for the times I slip up? The pauses? The lack of recall at times? I have seen this happen with everyone I know, and sometimes a LOT. So I am too hard on myself there.
You are right, the bad is WAY too easy to see. I learned long ago that I should look for failings in other people. NOT to belittle them, etc... Just simply to be able to be able to determine when they are telling you the truth, or not, and be fairer on judging yourself.
HECK, one person mentioned my name, and I asked how she knew. She claimed to have a photographic memory. When I tested her, she FLUNKED! She admited she didn't have a great memory. Her memory is far worse than mine. They obviously heard my name and their incessant use of my first name etched it into their memories.
It is also nice to know that, if someone belittles you for a minor mistake, that you can recall several MAJOR ones they made! I once missed a minor mistake someone else did that was TOO easy to make. Because of that, the project was set 3 hours behind schedule. My Project manager made a few MAJOR mistakes earlier that set the project over a week behind schedule! So I knew he really couldn't blame me.
Steve
I'm 22 now and don't remember anything before being 8 years old.
With the exception of tiny schreds of memory that are extremely unclear to me ofcourse.
I can't say i'm proud about my AS because AS has altered my personality considerably to something that isn't really me.
I am however proud about how i am able to deal better with my problems by the week.
The main things i'm training for myself right now are my memory and my social skills.
The social skills are coming around really well.
And i think my memory is soon going to be at a average level for a NT.
AS definately didn't improve my memory, on the contrary.
When i was a kid before my AS set in i had an amazing memory+social skills
The one positive thing that my AS may have done for me was that i was able to speak fluent English at 10 years old.
This was 2 years after we got cable and i saw the first movies in English on the television.
That has made it easyer to communicate when abroad in Europe.
Unfortunately it seems most people in other European countrys never really bothered to learn proper English
When people talk about how i used to be it always stuns me.
It was the total opposite of how i was a few years ago.
You don't ACQUIRE AS. Oddly though, things DO get worse around 8 for most people with AS. *I* started appearing perhaps a BIT more normal. Some social things may have calmed down a bit, but better abilities did also. But most of my memories started perhaps around 5 although I am realizing more and more some WERE earlier than I thought.
Steve
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I think NTs are intrisecaly as diverse as we are, anyway they "play the same game" and look for the same, thus, they achive it, we dont.
Daniel,
I would have believed you. HECK, you figure people HAVE to be different! STILL, a number here ARE like me, and others are as I might have or could have been. Still others have quirks, etc... I have. Some are TEXTBOOK AS!
Like dig this, I know that I have a lot of downs because of my being an aspie, ya kno? But like it isn't all darkness and gloom see. This AS thing, it has given me some strengths too, cool ones. Get hep to this cats; like my visual and dimensional skills are like zowie. And I am good at math so long as I can groove on the underlying concepts. So I can do a real keen job of architecture. AS is my groove!
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