Is staying off Facebook an Aspie thing?

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This is very good reasoning. Thank you.

As for the having fewer people to share photos with: I had around 80 "friends" (contacts/acquaintances) on Facebook when I closed my account. An NT family member has 600+! I've never understood that: where do people like that meet so many people? Do they even know them at all?

Yes, the only reason why I joined was that my then boyfriend wanted me to.

I go there very rarely as I find it very boring and pointless. I would never dream of posting pics of myself or family online, and I prefer to share my interests elsewhere (if at all).
It has been useful to find some turtle stuff, but now I tend to use Twitter more for that.

I think disinterest in it is fairly common for us, but it's def not just us. There are a few NTs too who take no interest in Facebook

When I was on Facebook, I think I had around 300-400 "friends", most of whom I had met maybe once in a club setting. I started to hate how when I went out, many of these people seemed to think they knew a fair deal about me and I often could barely even remember their name, only recognizing the face I'd met once before either looking at me expectantly like I should be saying hello to them or willfully ignoring me because of my obvious social anxiety. It got to the point that those weird feelings started even spreading to the people who I had at one time felt relatively close to. And that was just the in real life application of it.. online I often ended getting in lengthy and pointless arguments over very technical things and proceeding to feel guilty for being accidentally very harsh with someone! Now, since I've deleted my Facebook, I don't feel like all of these people who once knew me are watching me and keeping tabs on me all of the time. On the rare occasion that some of my friends do get me out to a party, it's refreshing because the people who actually did care about me then approach me and are legitimately interested in what I've been up to and I have something to talk about. I seem to be invisible to everyone else and I'm perfectly okay with that.

Btw, I just found out I am on the spectrum and so I'm relatively new to the ND community, just thought I'd share my personal experience to perhaps help you find your answer!

Ditto the first three paragraphs from Esmeralda. (I don't know much about cyber-bullying.)

Whether it's an Aspie thing to be very private; I don't know, but I do not use any social media of any kind.
I think everything is far too public these days and the concept that posting to the world " Waiting for the bus, before I go home for a PotNoodle" on Twitter is no less than inane.
If other people agree that Spectrum Inhabitors may be of above average intelligence, then it's only expectable for us to stay away from such stuff.
It may be an age thing too though. At 52, I'm more than happy to just have the web and a hotmail account.

I joined briefly, but felt completely out of place. It seemed to be full of perfect people with perfect lives, congratulating themselves on how wonderful they were. Not my cup of tea.

I've tried FB a few times but I always end up deleting my account. My three main irritants are:

1) news feed - don't want to read the news FB selects for me

2) privacy (or lack thereof)

3) friends whining about politics constantly

I didn't used to like Facebook, but it has grown on me. It keeps me updated on certain events, and when people aren't oversharing too much I can stay low-key in touch. It does seem to get more invasive... like I'll get notifications that my friend is at an event nearby. Which is just creepy.

What I've noticed lately is the friend suggestion notification window that pops up on my desktop.

I saw a profile picture of some random guy with long black hair and a menacing look on his face which naturally got me super flustered, blushing, flipping out because I thought this person had sent me a friend request. But nope, just an automatic friend suggestion. It was a funny experience though.

I dont have a facebook account, never have never will .