Attention hogs

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I always got plenty of attention and praise... as long as I was doing what was expected of me and I was "behaving appropriately". If I wasn't, then I didn't exist at all. Eventually I began to hate any attention I got. It was either Show Pony quality (me being the Show Pony that was supposed to perform) or it was bullies.
I've craved unconditional love and the kind of attention that goes with it, all my life, because it always sounded so nice when I would hear people talking about someone who was always there for them, loved them no matter what, was supportive and understanding. It sounded like some kind of magical solution to all the bad things in life, unconditional love and acceptance.
But it took so long for me to find someone that actually loves me like that, that gives me that kind of attention, that I'm never really convinced that it's real or genuine. So mostly, I'm sandwiched between a rock and a hard place when it comes to attention.

As for attention hogs and popularity contests... I usually don't spare those people any thought or focus. They're already getting enough from everyone else and I've got other things I'd rather spend the time on.

I don't find the popularity contest to be in good taste once out of high school. Can't people grow the eff up?

Luckily I cut a few of those loose from my life recently.

Life is better without narcissists in it

These are just my opinions, & perspective. I think the majority of people just want to be distracted & entertained. Charismatic people have within them the ability to take your mind off of bad stuff happening, or if not, they can make a joke of it and get people to laugh. Laughing reduces stress, & when someone can make them laugh they will naturally gravitate to them again in the future. If not laughter, it can be any other catalyst that draws people to them -- a talent for sand art, 3D art, a new or repurposed gadget, building unique things, ... just something that is good enough for a distraction. That is really all the masses want >> to be distracted &/or entertained. It is kind of easy once you figure out what someone is interest in, but you have to be able to sustain the interaction positively or else they will be deterred to interact with you in the future. No one wants to engage with someone who is negative or doesn't make them feel good frequently. You must put forth the effort, sustain it, & be willing to examine what you are doing or not doing to obtain the attention you desire.

Your post has zilch to do with Elaine's post.

It is a fact that certain people hog all the attention in any given situation. At my age, I don't care. Elaine is just starting out. Perhaps it is tough for her to go up against extroverts.

Don't make this another if you smile more they'll like you more. People come on here for understanding rather than have the resident NTs tell them if you just do........they will accept you.

In my case scenario, I was the individual whom often was rarely acknowledged in terms of my existence.To be honest, I never cared for the spotlight so to speak, in fact I think such persons tend to be shallor or vain in some ways.

I feel invisible as well (especially in here) but I kind of like it. It's almost like a special power.