Do you want a new family?

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08 Jan 2018, 2:03 pm

Everyone I meet is impressed by me but my family still treats me like I'm the bad one. I don't really want to get married but I'd do it just to be part of a new family. Has anyone had any luck in joining a new family?

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08 Jan 2018, 2:17 pm

I've been married three times and each time I've preferred the new in-laws to my real family. I think the lack of baggage helps and, to an extent, the new lot can take you at face value.
Sometimes I wonder if I should have gone "off grid" when I finished university... stayed in another part of the country and lost contact somehow.
Is that a really terrible thing to say? That's families for you.

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08 Jan 2018, 2:24 pm

Yep....same here.

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08 Jan 2018, 3:06 pm

Trueno wrote:

I already own land off the grid, I can checkout whenever I want. Right now, I don't want to checkout, I'm too young. I want be around remarkable people and do exceptional things.

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08 Jan 2018, 4:01 pm

No, I just want to get out of the one I'm supposedly in. Only my parents (mostly my mom) so much as bother to talk to me, but everyone else seems to forget I exist except on Christmas and sometimes I'll get a card for my birthday. But no phone calls, Facebook friend requests or invites to come over. We might have been close when we were kids (some of us at least) but people change when they become adults.

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08 Jan 2018, 8:02 pm

I don't want a new family per se...
But I want a family that I could let go without feeling guilty. Or a family that could let me go and makes things easier for me to let them go.

If I say any further than that, I don't think people would understand...

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09 Jan 2018, 7:18 am

My life has been a series of attempts to fit in to one family or another. Baby ducks have a reflex to follow something that is usually mother. My "bond with parents" is still flopping around loose, trying to establish a connection, but it never takes; I just fool myself for a while.

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09 Jan 2018, 7:26 am

Do I want a new family? Shell no! My family (parents, late maternal grandparents) are the four people in my life who are/ have been worth the candle.
I would just want them (and even myself as well) younger!

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09 Jan 2018, 9:53 am

Trueno wrote:

Sometimes I wonder if I should have gone "off grid" when I finished university... stayed in another part of the country and lost contact somehow.
Is that a really terrible thing to say? That's families for you.

Same. The only reason I'm not doing it is because I'm too much of a chicken and need help whenever my disability starts acting up. I honestly don't know who I could ask for help if my parents or sisters weren't around (no, doctors do not count in this case for various reasons.) It's not that I don't care about my family, but I just feel like I don't fit in and that getting some distance between us would show if they really care or are just in contact because that is expected of them... and to show if I really care. I mean I do care, but I think that I could live my life just as well with just seeing them a few times a year. Maybe it's just because I don't see social contacts as the kind of must that most people do and the fact that I think that I don't need to see someone often in order to be close with them.

Do I want a new family? Well, sort of. I hope I can start my own some day.

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09 Jan 2018, 10:03 am

I've never been married, but as far as girlfriends (and regular friends!) go, I've had a few where their family liked me, a few (including the most recent ex) where I think they would have preferred I wasn't around, and a couple friends had parents who basically treated me like their own.

I've had a girlfriend (or two?) that my parents really, really liked. Oh well =/

They like most of my friends.

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