How do you socially cope with uncontrollable stimming?

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So I have uncontrollable stimming unfortunately. I know how weird it looks, but I can’t control it a lot of the time. I don’t cope well with it. If someone acknowledges my stimming in any way or at least appears to I’ll probably be very cold towards them. I also get mad at anyone who catches me stimming badly when I think I have privacy. I really hope people don’t see me as weird or autistic when I’m stimming and just think it’s soemthing else. I’d rather they think I’m on drugs than autistic. I probably look childish, anxious or upbeat. I’m trying a corset to try to control it. It seems to help with anxiety and a bit of stimming, but not enough. I think I’ll look for an even tighter one. Don’t care if my stomach moves or whatever. If I can quit stimming and look normal it will be worth any health risks. I’ll also be happy to balance out my slightly too skinny legs.

You are just being you. Their reaction is not your problem. Let them figure out how to deal with it. Don't get mad at them. Getting angry only feeds your own negative feelings. It creates a downward spiral that leads to the dark side.

I just do little bits here and there

I feel the same way sometimes, embarrassed. Other times I reclaim it and am confident: this is the way I am and if people don't understand, that's on them. I'm never ashamed but sometimes embarrassed and awkward. What I do is I take a breather, step outside of the situation. When it's nice out, I say I have to go to the bathroom and walk around outside. I do this even when I'm at Church.