Did people let you get away with being angry in public?

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livingwithautism
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13 Aug 2019, 12:48 pm

They couldn't stop me. Define "get away."



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13 Aug 2019, 12:56 pm

If I "show my temper" in public, I almost always "get away" with it---because no cop comes up to me and tells me to "calm down." I feel pretty embarrassed, though. Usually, what I'm upset about is no major thing at all. Like if I just miss a train, and the next train is 20 minutes away, and it's midnight, I get upset because I have to get up at 6:15 the next morning.

When I was 17, though, I was drumming very loudly on a subway seat----when this cop came up to me and told me to get off the train. He escorted me into a room---where he asked me a couple of questions. Then he told me to "calm down," and sent me on my way.



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13 Aug 2019, 12:59 pm

Depends on who I am around at the moment. I have had a few people give me encouragement to get mad to resolve certain problems and others that focus on scolding me for getting mad when I had every reason imaginable to support my actions.



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15 Aug 2019, 7:41 pm

Lil dipshits are judgmental, manipulative ass holes

They act like they have never done anything wrong before in their lives and " the meaning of life is 'helping people'. "

f**k mister redelings

When someone has the nerve to comment on my appearance (including emotion), intelligence or demeanor, that is annoying and anger is justified

When someone let's their dog off leash, that is illegal and , anger is justified

When someone drives impatiently or recklessly, that is dangerous and, anger is justified


When someone refers to herself as "people" and me as "you", it implies that I can not a person. And she represents people. Condescending. Anger is justified


There is nothing to "get away" with


When someone laughs at me or asks personal questions, that is disrespectful and rude and anger is justified


When someone bangs impatiently on the bathroom door, that is arrogant and anger is justified


When someone has the nerve to say "what" or "huh" like it's the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me", that is calloused and anger is justified




s**t


When someone tries to sell me drugs, if they persist, then anger is justified.


Aggressive panhandling



When someone tells me that I said something I did not say, they need a hearing aid, and anger is justified






s**t



Does that make sense?



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19 Apr 2020, 5:31 am

graceksjp wrote:
Screaming tantrums is part of your individuality?!
I get not always wanting to bottle up your anger, lord knows I do terrible things when I try, but there are circumstances where its really in everyones best interest that you do. You can't always give in, and the more you do and get used to it, the more likely you'll slip in a moment when you actually really need to keep the peace. You do not want to be known as the person with anger management issues...that is not the way to go about your professional life. Maybe find a way to politely excuse yourself from whatever situation has you angered, and find somewhere private to release it?

https://www.quora.com/Why-do-people-tal ... -should-be You see, I was the one who asked this question. Because while it was traumatizing to realize there were reasons to care about what others said, my individuality was already halfway set by then, which means that means that certain parts of my individuality would get me in trouble if I were to unleash them fully.



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02 Jul 2020, 9:24 pm

Because I only learned to control my anger late, controlling my anger feels like, well, imagine trying to force yourself to do everything with the hand you don't currently use. No doubt you'd get used to it somewhat, but you'd probably still feel that something was off.



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03 Jul 2020, 1:52 pm

They didn't let me get away with it, but that didn't stop me because I had very little self-control and people shouting at me just made me shout back, louder. I only started to get some self-control when I was 11. It was around then that one of my teachers took me aside for a quiet word AFTER a meltdown, instead of trying to discipline me during it. I had the occasional incident after that (hell, I still do) but far less often.


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