Jealous of more attractive people with Asperger's Syndrome
I seem to feel quite jealous of some good looking people who have Asperger's syndrome and I seem to think they are more attractive than me. I heard that a guy called niall from Love Island has Aspergers, he has tattoos and some muscles going on. I didn't watch Love Island anyway as I don't like watching that reality TV stuff. I've even been quite jealous of someone I knew from school days whose the same age as me (29) and has lots of tattoos, plays in a band and goes to gigs and I've seen photos of him with lots of mates and a girlfriend having a drink and all that. I seem to think they've managed to fit in well with the NT society than what I do and I feel I want to do the same and get very frustrated because of it. I have have not many friends to hang out and are not interested in what I'm interested and they are not the going out types so I go to town or somewhere on my own. I seem to think at times I must be ugly because of my long hair and slim physique and that I don't have tattoos and a muscular physique. But I don't really want to go to a gym anyway and I never know what tattoo I want and where would have it.
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What is preventing you from getting tattoos, exercising to gain some muscle, and cutting your hair?
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So you're jealous of a person on a reality show that you don't like anyway?
Those kind of shows and celeb things are designed to dumb down society, so people's aim in life is to be a rich idiot more stupid then most people, selling dumb stories, and then if anybody can see reality that they're not great, the zombified masses attack them as just being jealous as they can't understand why others don't think how they're told, when idiots wouldn't be rich if so many weren't dumbed down to admire them.
Same with women. They say to see manky, cheap looking trash like Victoria Beckham and Kerry Katona as style icons, talentless with obvious fake chests they like showing off, over made up, to help dumb down society, in return for constant promotion more than they're worth
No need to be jealous of me!
Tattoos aren't a make or break in attracting someone. It's a personal preference and not a sign of anything in particular. Be the best you that you can be, don't compete with others because if you're too busy trying to compete with others, you'll miss what is right in front of you. You'll never be satisfied if you measure yourself against others.
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No need to be jealous of me!
Tattoos aren't a make or break in attracting someone. It's a personal preference and not a sign of anything in particular. Be the best you that you can be, don't compete with others because if you're too busy trying to compete with others, you'll miss what is right in front of you. You'll never be satisfied if you measure yourself against others.
I personally prefer less permanent ways of drawing on your body.
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You can workout and get tattoos, though. What makes you think those are the reasons people find them attractive? And if NTs look for qualities like those, which are achievable by basically anyone, is that kind of attraction about uniqueness or conformity? What do you value?
I'd also guess that being an aspie who fits more with conventions of NT attraction may be pretty difficult--you can "look the part," but not have the same social skills. It would kind of be like having a lot money that you couldn't spend--not necessarily useful. You also may attract many more predators.
I've felt your frustrations and they're definitely understandable. But, from my own life experience, I'd say there's more happiness and self-preservation in focusing on what you have than what you don't have. I've made some stupid mistakes and lost some good things in my life by focusing on what I was missing and blindly going after it, instead of placing more emphasis on what already worked in my life and pursuing additional goals more reasonably.
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