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It's cool that you have both woods and sea near you.

I don't know about banned, but ignored is a real possibility. I have a face-friend who is only welcome here when unusually sober. Otherwise, I'd have to go to al-anon meetings to deal with the confusion in my life. Drink makes life feel easier for the drinker, but harder for everyone around.
Thanks for the thread, though. I've now got a list of types of respect started. I can respect someone as a human being, but not as a logical thinker, even if they can't tell the difference.

Quite often, I find myself reading a response and thinking "Wow, it sounds like something I might say, or wish I'd said." This being one of them. Very often, you're the one posting it. I like the cut of your jib, old man!

(And hey, no need to reply to this if you don't want to.)

I don't want to startle people. Today I had an epiphany. I realised that people see me differently when I'm drunk than how I see myself. I am only trying to survive.

Well, drinking is a rather poor way to survive.

I always get ignored everywhere because I stand out. Maybe that's it with you too?

I really liked your advice in Haven

I want to know what number I am now.

I only assign myself numbers. Last time I did that I was number 8. I got into an argument when I swapped days because someone else was number 8 too and we had the same locker.

Wow, that's uncanny. I actually did see an 8 for you before finishing your post. I associate 8 with strength and courage but I didn't consciously pick it for you, it just came.

Yeah, I think I can get ignored for standing out too. Either ignored or attract too much attention.

Thinking of it, I think the 8 came to me because I remember you talking about dealing with that neighbour of yours, and I was really impressed, I wish I could handle a situation as well as that.

I count people when I am on the bus but i dont give them numbers

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"....Everybody deserves respect."

Personally I disagree with this comment. Generally speaking, if a person behaves in a certain way, then imo they do not deserve respect and will not get mine. Of course the concept of respect can for some people relate more to subjective values rather then to conscience.

I'm mostly ambivalent with most people on the forums. Some i like, some i dislike. You are in the ambivalent section, if that makes you feel better

And don't worry about people not responding to your posts, most things have been discussed to death and over and over here on the forums. New threads are created on the same subjects without people searching for them.

A refreshing post, Ichinin. Ambivalence is underrated.

I think I've only started one post on here and received no replies... that was probably a blessing really.

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Here's your lesson for today: If a person does or does not respond to your thread does not necessarily mean that they like you or do not like you. I mainly respond to threads that fit into what I am doing, as I generally have a larger aim. Secondly, telling can be an integral part of showing. It is not that you (meaning anyone) don't tell, but how you tell. The way a person tells SHOWS me who they are, and this often determines whether or not I like them.

Thirdly, yes it IS or at least can be important whether or not people like oneself. If people like each other and show each other ordinary respect in their daily interactions, then everybody is more likely to be happy and people in general are less likely to be harmed, Some people I just do not like, generally because of their behavior, which includes the idea content or lack of idea content in what they are saying, and also what they do, such as if they are pushy. If someone thwarts what I am doing, especially if I am trying to help another person who is suffering (which person on some level probably represents myself to me), then I am less likely to like them. This is why it is important, for me, at least, to have a conscious plan and know what I am doing. I do not like to interact entirely by feeling as that can easily backfire,

Re rating people, I think everyone does this to some degree--I definitely do. As mentioned in my previous message, different people have different standards of value, but if someone likes me then I am more likely to like them. Maybe from this message you cannot tell for sure whether I like you or not, as it is how it is designed, but I hope I have shown you something.

That's exactly what Buddha said!

"Each of us is one with everything".

I'm curious as to what "number" Fifasy would give me.....

A four probably. You have ambition, authority and and achievement.

Do you have synesthesia, Fifasy?

Can you see colors in numbers?