Are you asocial?

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Is it something you've always been,or did happen as a result of the difficulties/stress of socially interacting ?

Quotes from my sister in something she wrote for my ASD assessment .

I basically spend most if not all my time alone in that sense with no friends or social life. I got people I talk to online and that's about it

Yeah, I isolate. Big time. Where I fail is when I check my mail every few days or take out the garbage, then I have to talk to people. Ugh!

I'm asocial because I simply don't have the need.
I don't have a strong social drive to engage, and only do so at random times when I just felt like doing it.

It's little to do with being 'awkward', being 'shy' or lack of self-confidence, being anxious, having low self-esteem, or having too many social failures and give up on it.
The only negative circumstantial effects I have is distrust towards humans being humans. I've been asocial long before I've learnt how to distrust someone and the want to avoid people -- and I can overcome both, yet I'm still asocial.


If I have the social drive for social engagement, I would've have more friends -- and I would've have more stress as well. The 'stress' won't deter me from that... It only makes my days and time shorter.

Except I don't have the social drive nor any desire to have friends. I just don't, just like I have no interest in romance or a sense of sexual attraction. I don't fear the responsibilities, I just prefer more freedom and more time for myself.
I just let friendships happen, happen, than avoid them. But I also let it continue and grow or let it go.
Half the time, I wonder what's the point of this, and half the time it makes me happy like any bonds and relationships 'should'.



Yet, I'm more fulfilled and more content. I'm still am. At the same time, I don't sought it -- because I'm asocial, not some extreme introvert.
And that asociality came from deeper than some circumstantial stuff that most aspies experienced in childhood and teenage years.

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I could live the rest of my days in seclusion, quite happily.

I don't recall ever having much drive to seek out people's company - I was always a loner as a child, as confirmed by my Mum when she was interviewed for my assessment. So long as I had my books, Lego, computer, or whatever other interests to hand, I was always content to spend most of my free time alone. The loneliest experience is being surrounded by people that I can't interact with because I'm overwhelmed - when I'm alone, immersed in my interests, I barely remember that other people even exist most of the time.

I've always been a loner and did my own thing.

Growing up,i often romanticized about being a monk,alone and surrounded by books.

Something cosy about a library,it feels like home.

NT's i view as alien,can't be direct and tell the truth and spend there days on meaningless small talk.

I tend to be asocial, but I CAN feel lonely if I am by myself for too long. At school, I usually sit not with people, but among them. People such as my teachers expect me to be more social than I usually am, but they usually don't know that I've had my feeling hurt many times by those I tried to be friendly to.

I never really felt the need to be as social as a non-autistic person, and a series of friendship rejections throughout my life has made me even less willing to be NT society's definition of social.

I used to be almost asocial, but recently I have upped my passing for neurotypical game, and now I'm actually quite social, at least I seem that way. I have also managed to highly increase my empathy (emotional and cognitive) with practice.

I have always struggled with socializing. Even when i was very young. When i started going to school, it was nearly impossible for the teachers to get me to socialize with the other kids. Over my entire life, I have had maybe a handful of friends, and every one of them didn’t last long. I have a very hard time keeping any type of relationship going. Today, I can socialize much better than ever before, but only because i have had a lot of therapy and have been working on it a lot. Basically though, my socializing is just mimicking what i have seen others do over the years. I don’t actually socialize much though. I am at home by myself most of the time. When i am not i am usually at work. I work in a library, and my job requires very little social interaction. I only really socialize if it’s unavoidable. I would definitely say I am asocial. Very introverted too.