No Patience for my fellow Auties

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I don't personally know many people on the spectrum, but I've recently come into contact with two Auties who frequent Discord servers I'm a member of, and have discovered that they, more than anyone else, annoy me the most. It just seems like whenever they want to talk, they railroad the conversations, and don't give me a chance to speak my mind on the topic at hand. They openly ignore my suggestions, and yet keep coming to me to rant and rave, day in and day out.

I realize how uplifting and relieving it feels to just verbally regurgitate on someone, I've definitely done it myself once or twenty times. However, perhaps due to my experience with NTs, I've come to understand that there's a flow to conversations, a back and forth exchange that you have to do, and I've come to expect that from others as well. Normally, this is a fine thing to expect, as most do it subconsciously in there NT ways, but some people on the spectrum don't, apparently.

Is this a normal experience for the high-function end, or am I just a jerk?

Couldn't both be true?

Ouch!
Bea, the mother of reason, how could you be so undiplomatic?...<chuckle>

To the OP:
Autistics are known for going off on a tangent...
Probably has something to do with "executive functioning disorder"...<shrug>

You've had a bad experience elsewhere...
Give it a bit of time, keep an open mind...
It may be better here than at the other place...
Time will tell...<shrug>
Give us a review in a week or so...

No you're not a jerk.

I'm rather easy to talk to for an Aspie, but in my experience I've found some NT people difficult to have a decent conversation with, especially if they're the loud, self-obsessed types.

What I find most difficult to talk to are deaf people. I don't mean 100% deaf obviously, but those who can hear but not with any background noise or distractions and you have to speak loud and clearly. Sometimes I find that hard, because during conversations I use different tones of voice, and certain tones deaf people can find hard to hear. People with cockney accents like me aren't the clearest or slowest speakers, which makes it even more hard to have a conversation with a deaf person.