hi i'm new, got a question

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Does anyone think this sounds like aspergers? (wondering if its worth going for an assessment, as i have some problems in my life).

When i was in the first years of school i used to walk around the playground by myself until someone asked me to play. Each day i would wait, even if the day before i'd made 'friends', for them or someone else to ask me to play.

That's really not enough information to conclude anything with.

Agreed.

Ok. I just thought looking back at my childhood that doesn't sound like a normal behaviour. If someone is playing with a group of kids their age at school, surely they would feel like part of the group and naturally join in the next day, and that is the start of friendships in school. However, i just walked the playground on my own for years, unless someone approached me. Perhaps it was because i was incredibly shy and have been told i show signs of selective mutism.

Many people when they hear about Aspergers begin to question if it might apply to them.

Did you want to read books?

It could be Aspergers. It could be you were introverted.

We are a very exclusive club.
Around 3% of the population?
We don't let just anyone join.

My point is: There are other possible explanations based on the dearth of information.

But...you are still welcome here....even if you don't happen to have Asperger's or autism.

How are you in terms of relationships with friends and lovers?

I don't know a lot myself as I came on to ask questions. I am now on a list to be assessed. I have learned so much about myself in the last few weeks even though I still don't know if I have asperges\autism or not. Maybe I'm just unique!

I can totally relate to your time in school as I very rarely spoke the first few years, and for the first year or two I would just stand by a specific place by a wall and watch, and I would be upset if I had to move.

First off, since this is your initial post, Welcome to Wrong Planet.

Generally speaking no one on this site has the credentials to make a determinations of your status as an Aspie or Autistic, even if we read your entire life's story. But having said that, there are on-line tests that can give you a fair approximation. Here is a link to one of these test.
Take the online Asperger’s Test


Also the way Asperger's manifest itself in females is quite different than males. So in comparing Asperger traits, you might want to focus in on the traits exhibited by females.

Thanks for the replies everyone. I never considered asd before, until a few years ago when i saw a psychologist because i was very socially anxious and suffering depression. They happened to specialise in aspergers and were convinced i had it. However i never wanted to have a diagnosis and felt it was more to do with social anxiety. I felt they didn't listen to me properly and got things wrong. I believed i had similiar symptoms, different causes.

Its just that almost a decade down the line i've done exposure therapy and improved somewhat with being around people (even got into a relationship) yet i'm still struggling outside. I have no friends, people i know i can be comfortable with (non-judgemental types) i still struggle with conversation. I understand them, i get humour and sarcasm, body language, i know when someone is bored etc i just feel too anxious to speak. And when i try to make eye-contact and listen i struggle to take in what they are saying. I struggle most times to take in information which just makes me more socially anxious. I definitely have social anxiety, but wondering if aspergers was an additional problem too.

Get a second opinion?
Trained professionals are in a better position to make a diagnosis. <shrug>

I did get a second opinion with another psychologist, but they didn't specialise in aspergers. They said i didn't have aspergers, but if i went for an assessment i'd probably get diagnosed, so if i didn't want the diagnosis not to go.

I do think the psychologist who specialised in the subject was on a one track mind simply because that was their passion.

I don't understand why i can't take in what people are saying sometimes outside. Even with medication for anxiety i still struggle. I'm confused.

I also saw a trainee therapists and cbt therapists for social anxiety. One said i didn't have aspergers because they put a fan on in the room to test if i raised my voice over it and i did. The other one who was very nice and helpful, said they didn't think i had it because i was doing really well with my english class at college and they didn't know anyone with autism who could write stories etc. Which i now know is so far off the mark. So their opinions don't really count even though i feel they were trying to help.

Strange.
You're not on the spectrum but if you take the test you will be diagnosed as being autistic?
I don't know what to make of that.

Some of the things you have said doesn't sound like you are on the spectrum, imho.
It does sound like anxiety, even with meds, might be interfering with your ability to concentrate.
Depression can do that too.
Did the psychologists mention dissociation?
Do you blank out sometimes?
Have you had psychological trauma in your early life?
Did they talk about Executive Functioning disorder?
Have you visited an anxiety forum?

They mentioned alot of things. Because i didn't carry on being assessed with the specialist and didn't get to find out if i had a diagnosis, they'd put in my files something on the lines of, in their opinion its either aspergers or selective mustism.
Everyone i've seen since says they can see signs of selective mutism (and looking back and even now, i can fully relate to it).

The other psychologist said signs of sm, social anxiety, depression. They also mentioned complex trauma (alot of problems at home) and dissociation but when i brought them up towards the end, i was confused once again because they said they were going through lots of suggestions trying to figure out the problem. Conclusion social anxiety, depression and gad. I think they said dissociation was considered because i appeared to not be listening and/or i didn't respond at the time to things, but i brought up what they had said in previous sessions and they realised i had been listening and taking it in afterall. Sometimes i don't realise i've taken in verbal infomation until later on. Its weird.

I agree, no asd, but would get diagnosed as just that, does not make much sense. Perhaps the assessment is flawed, nothing is fault proof.