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After living with this for my entire life and taking the sporadic online tests, today I broke down and contacted a mental health expert for an official testing appointment, as I'm afraid I'm about to lose my partner because of my inability to be effective in our relationship.

I'm unsure about how I can make her understand I don't always know I've said something with tone or that it was the wrong thing.

I've tried to adjust my behaviors (like not making comments when her teenage daughter leaves messes) and really thought I was doing good.

Has anyone ever been where I find myself? I haven't communicated all day because I don't want to say the incorrect thing and in reading about relationships I am not sure if that is correct or not.

Hello & welcome!

I'll start by asking a silly question. Have you talked to your partner about your concerns and told her that these things are difficult for you? My first approach would be address it directly. I don't know if this is the "correct" approach, it would just be my preference.

If you're able to get a diagnosis, that may further help your partner understand that these things are legitimate issues you experience (though hopefully that's not absolutely necessary). Props for your efforts thus far! I always want to correct something when I know it to be wrong, so I know how hard it can be to keep shtum.

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Hey Digital Jedi, welcome to Wrong Planet.