How much of human behaviour is nothing more than bullying

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I agree with everything except the last line. I don't believe it's as simple as "alphas" and "betas." Though I believe the "animal heritage" aspect has some importance.

I become more and more aware that people constantly project unto me.
And it doesn't leave me untouched.
Feels like I search my entire life for the people that don't project their stuff.
But how can I expect this from people who don't love themselves and find it normal to take whatever they need to fill an unconscious lack?

I recently saw the movie "Breaking the waves" again. And in the end the only "diagnosis" by the doctor is that she is simply "good".

I feel that it is hard to "live goodness" being surrounded by mistrust in inherent goodness.

So I wouldn't call bullying human behaviour. Just behaviour of some people.
Writing this I think of all my inner dynamics that feel everything else than "good" but I feel that I just tried to defend who I really am.

The Cat

I can say with sincerity that I like cats; also I can give very good reasons why those who despise them are wrong. A cat is an animal who has more human feelings than almost any other being. We cannot sustain a comparison with the dog, it is infinitely too good; but the cat, although it differs in some physical points, is extremely like us in disposition.

There may be people, in truth, who would say that this resemblance extends only to the most wicked men, that it is limited to their excessive hypocrisy, cruelty, and ingratitude, detestable vices in our race and equally odious in that of cats. Without disputing the limits that those individuals set on our affinity, I answer that if hypocrisy, cruelty, and ingratitude are exclusively the domain of the wicked, that class comprises everyone. Our education develops one of those qualities in great perfection; the others flourish without nurture, and far from condemning them, we regard all three with great complacency.

A cat, in its own interest, sometimes hides its misanthropy under the guise of amiable gentleness; instead of tearing what it desires from its master's hand, it approaches with a caressing air, rubs its pretty little head against him, and advances a paw whose touch is soft as down. When it has gained its end, it resumes its character of Timon, and that artfulness in it is called hypocrisy. In ourselves, we give it another name, politeness, and he who did not use it to hide his real feelings would soon be driven from society.

"But," says some delicate lady, who has murdered a half-dozen lapdogs through pure affection, "The cat is such a cruel beast, he is not content to kill his prey, he torments it before its death; you cannot make that accusation against us." More or less, Madame. Your husband, for example, likes hunting very much, but foxes being rare on his land, he would not have the means to pursue this amusement often, it he did not manage his supplies thus: once he has run an animal to its last breath, he snatches it from the jaws of the hounds and saves it to suffer the same infliction two or three more times, ending finally in death. You yourself avoid the bloody spectacle because it wounds your weak nerves. I have seen you embrace your child in transport, when he came to show you a beautiful butterfly crushed between his cruel fingers, and at that moment I really wanted to have a cat, with the tail of a half-devoured rat hanging from its mouth, to present as the image, the true copy, of your angel. You could not refuse to kiss him, as he scratches us both in revenge, so much the better. Little boys are rather liable to acknowledge their friends' caresses in that way, and the resemblance would be more perfect. They know how to value our favours at their true price, because they guess the motives that prompt us to grant them, and if those motives might sometimes be good, undoubtedly they remember always that they owe all their misery and all their evil qualities to the great ancestor of humankind. For assuredly, the cat was not wicked in Paradise.

May 15th, 1842

Emily Brontë, written in french as Le Chat, on human nature

People are often weird. I don't think it's intentional.