Family's reaction to your ASD/Asperger's/Autism diagnosis?

Page 1 of 1 [ 6 posts ] 

firemonkey
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 23 Mar 2015
Gender: Male
Posts: 4,352
Location: Calne,England

18 Sep 2019, 12:18 am

Positive/negative/indifferent etc .

Although my sister wrote a letter for my assessment her reaction after I got the diagnosis has been indifferent ,in that she hasn't commented at all on it. Neither has my father . My brother has said that it's good that it's been acknowledged, but a shame it took so long .


_________________
Support mental health research
Please support mental health research
http://www.mentalhealthresearchuk.org.uk/
http://mcpin.org/
https://www.mqmentalhealth.org/


Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 133 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 47 of 200
You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)


Last edited by firemonkey on 18 Sep 2019, 12:22 am, edited 1 time in total.

IsabellaLinton
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Nov 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 32,724

18 Sep 2019, 12:22 am

I didn't tell my mother. She's in her 80s and we barely speak. I mentioned it to my brother via text in the midst of a different conversation about our health, and he didn't comment. I told one cousin in America via Facebook, and she said something like "Oh, I can see that!", before changing the subject. My family isn't known for communicating thoughts or feelings so this isn't unusual at all. No one really speaks to anyone about significant issues, and especially not me, because I'm selective mute.


_________________
I'll walk where my own nature would be leading: It vexes me to choose another guide.


aquafelix
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 26 Jul 2019
Age: 49
Gender: Male
Posts: 666
Location: Australia

18 Sep 2019, 3:48 am

My family weren't fazed at all (My family is full of ASD, so they are well educated), but my wife's family is another story entirely.



Alterity
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 7 Feb 2019
Age: 33
Gender: Female
Posts: 500
Location: New England

18 Sep 2019, 10:33 pm

My mother had suspected it when I was young. So I suppose her reaction was a mix of vindication and frustration. No one was willing to make the diagnosis when I was a kid and people she tried to talk to about my "different ness" tended to just tell her she was being hysterical because she was a first time mom.

I didn't exactly announce it to anyone else. So I have no idea what they think or feel about it. No one says anything about it, not that I talk to them much anyway. Honestly I don't think most of them would care or have any real understanding of it.


_________________
"Inside the heart of each and every one of us there is a longing to be understood by someone who really cares. When a person is understood, he or she can put up with almost anything in the world."


renaeden
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Jun 2005
Age: 43
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,772
Location: Western Australia

18 Sep 2019, 11:07 pm

My mum helped me get my diagnosis in that she spoke to my psychologist on the phone and answered questions. But afterwards she felt really guilty that she hadn't seen it earlier. So she refused to talk to me about it any more than the bare minimum.

I told my dad I'm autistic and he was like "ok". And that's as far as it went.

My twin told me to stop obsessing over it after I brought the subject up with her twice.

The only one who has accepted it is my second oldest sister. She told my mum that she knew I was different. She also told her neighbours, who have an autistic son. But she hasn't spoken with me directly about it.

I gather it's the same kind of pattern with other people here. It's a slippery subject that is somewhat difficult to convey verbally.



Edna3362
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 29 Oct 2011
Gender: Female
Posts: 5,956
Location: ᜆᜄᜎᜓᜄ᜔

18 Sep 2019, 11:28 pm

Don't know about dad, probably not accepted it. Not sure. He was upset when it heard about it.

Mom's just worried. Tried a balancing act, but doesn't really know what to do.
Everyone else kept quiet about it.

They generally let me be.


I'm rather grateful for it.


_________________
Gained Number Post Count (1).
Lose Time (n).