Leaving WP

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Thanks for the good discussions etc guys, over the last few months since I joined...I've decided to leave for personal reasons; I enjoyed many things about the forum but ultimately came to the same conclusion I have from other online communities...that the bad people ruin it for the rest of us (trolls, ignorant, close-minded, etc), and unfortunately I have a 0 tolerance policy for BS in my life. I really do wish the best to everyone else and hope you do well and find happiness. Take care, and so long!

There are ignorant and close minded people everywhere in real life. Learning how to deal with them and not let it bother me had a big positive impact on my life and online forums are a good place to practice. My advice is to ask yourself why it bothers you and try thinking about it differently so you aren't bothered by it.

Sorry so see you leave.

I enjoyed our brief exchange about music and games. I wish you the best.

It's hard to make up my own mind about this place, I think I'll keep dropping by once in a while until I reach a conclusion so maybe I'll see you sometimes later

I am sorry to see you go...

You could try limiting your participation on the forum if you have any interest in staying.

Would like to know where you are seeing any of that.

Its' best to try and focus on the positive and not let it get to you. It's not really something that comes easy adn truthfully i'm nots ure if anyone really rises above it. I understnad the frustration. I too get tire of it sometimes. I really am sad to see you go not that i knew you that well.

There is no use in naming names, but suffice to say I have seen a good deal of it...it's a big forum with many members, so always there's a percentage, on any forum...whether they're truly bad people or just people who I don't get along with, that depends on your perspective. But even just since making this post, I've received a short message to my PM saying "I don't like you" explaining how I'm an "arrogant jerk" etc. Which of course is wrong, because I know I'm a nice and good person. Yeah it may just be one or two people who feel that way but it's enough for me, I don't need to have those kinds of people in my life. I just feel there's a lot of negative energy on here and I'm sensitive to it and don't react well to it...and don't really know how to resolve it, and it isn't my place to do so...of course there's positive energy as well which is why I stayed as long as I did...

Thanks to others for your kind comments. I've been involved on online forums and communities for a long time, on and off over the years (I'm 33 now and started when I was 13). Sometimes with thousands of posts, etc. Sometimes I've even been the troll, or been the problem anyway. The problem is people always seem to say something that rubs me the wrong way. I take things personally and have a hard time letting things go once this happens. It gets worse when there are discussions about politics, religion, etc., where people are naturally very divided and get defensive and like to argue (I know I can be like that). Plus sometimes I do get mean when people push my buttons because I feel I need to stand up for myself, and that can become an escalating cycle.

I've come and gone from various places for these reasons. It's not entirely my fault but it's also not entirely others' either. The blame is always to be shared when there is conflict. Part of the issue is I have strong opinions and ideals and can have a really hard time accepting people who don't fit into those. And a great many people do fit in, so it's usually not a problem...but when it is, it's a big problem for me. Some things I just don't put up with which makes it hard because we all have our opinions. Discussion forums give people a platform to say what they want to people without having to really approach them about it.

Also I wonder if it's really the right place for me because I don't have ASD. I know many on here identify that they do and have diagnoses etc. I always wondered if I did but never got a formal dx and was told my a specialist I didn't seem to have it as much as his other clients, if anything it was "high functioning" Asperger's (which wasn't really a diagnosis of course). I tend to score pretty highly on NT as well as neurodiverse on those quizzes...and I just don't see myself as disabled. I've taken an interest in autism and learned about it etc., but can't really identify myself as that completely. So I feel kind of like someone who doesn't belong with this group as well as others. That makes it hard for someone who is used to not fitting in anyway. I think I can offer a unique perspective because I'm like Spock...not entirely vulcan, not entirely human (50/50 NT and autistic)...but it also means I don't get along so well with either group maybe.

I think I have more of a light or pseudo-autism and can't identify with a lot of what others on here are going through. So in the end it's just another discussion forum for me and when I have to deal with the "bad seeds", it makes it really hard for me, because I think about stuff a lot...I'll wake up in the morning or night and not be able to sleep because of something someone said or did online...that I know was wrong, and it'll bother me.

I may come and go but currently my thoughts are that it's best I do take some distance anyway...

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Unfortunately, that is not a diagnosis, besides, "vulcanite" has already been taken and could just lead to more confusion.

But it is really a case of picking which hills you want to die on. It is hard, but I am slowly letting go. The internet is not a place for complex topics.

Don't beat yourself up about small stuff. I haven't seen any posts of yours that offended me, but I have seen my share of closed minds and reactionary attitudes here. I haven't got to know you very well yet, but you're welcome here even if you see yourself as more NT than AS.

So stick around even if you participate or post less, but ultimately your choice. DOn't let others spoil it for you - I don't know why there's a small minority who get personal or send mosquito-like jabs such as nasty PMs. There's plenty positive vibes here and I believe they far outweigh those negative ones.

We need unique perspectives! Spock is quite welcome in our midst along with the rest of us and the characters we identify with...

Oh bother! I'll miss you eyelessshiver! You seemed like such a decent, down-to-earth, talented and friendly person. I'm sorry you didn't like WP. I sense a lot of people aren't happy here but I wish I knew what happened to upset you. In case I don't hear from you again, all the best to you and your little family. Keep playing piano and guitar because you really are a genius. Your work is amazing and you seem like a good guy too. Best wishes from kitten.

Please report that, there's a little bottom right. Lets us see the message.

If Kitten is exuberant for you, I would account that a very big compliment.

I don’t mean romantically....I mean she admires your talent.

I’m not as talented as you—yet, I’m staying.

I have never noticed you here and this is the first time I have seen you but sad to see you go, I am always sad to see a member leave even if I don't know them and never interacted with them.

Oh, give it a rest.