What ASD traits do you NOT have?

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I am numbers but my ASD BFF is not --- we are both INFORMATION. For our type of ASD, I wonder if "information as a priority" would work. When my kids are hurt, I supply information first and hugs second, if I remember. When I meet someone I start with "business" and then ask how they are, if I remember. Etc.

I'm not a picky eater and specifically go out of my way to pick the most interesting things on the menu, or on the grocery aisle. However, my disposition towards routine means that once I find something I like, it's what I get every time.

I'm not clumsy, I'm actually pretty physically coordinated and almost never drop things or bump into things. I still have an eccentric gait though.

I am good at understanding sarcasm and metaphorical speech. I may not get it 100% of the time but generally no less than an NT.

I am fairly good at lying.

I don't have a flat affect although my facial expressions are sometimes atypical.

I do experience sensory overload, but it rarely results in a meltdown unless augmented by emotional stress.

I am mediocre at absorbing trivia, and my interests seldomly involve doing so.

I don't do hand flapping, but I have done other hand fidgeting.

Eye contact is easy to make if I have to, but I otherwise will never do it.

No seizures.

The textures of fabrics are not apprehensive for me.

I'm fine with certain discussions in the nature of small talk, the problem arises when I have a greatly limited set of interests at my disposal for initiating conversations or keeping them going.

i can talk about nearly anything under the sun other than sports and pop culture and the intricacies of anything involving maths.

I don’t have a flat face. I don’t have a set routine. I am not picky about food. I don’t mind tags on clothes. I don’t speak in a monotone voice, but my voice is slightly childlike. I don’t have meltdowns. Never got them as a kid either. I don’t flap my hands.

To add;

No alexithymia. I basically embody the opposite of alexithymia.
Thus no flat affect, no monotonous voice, no struggles in emotional factors related to empathy...
... Even though I'd rather have those traits than not.

No gut issues. Because that's me for being a woman, not for being autistic.
Recently experienced less gut issues recently -- which was in-line around the time when I had pleasant changes around my psyche and body, and I hadn't changed my diet yet.

No learning disabilities. This includes clumsiness in gross motor and fine motor sense.

No 'rigidity' or related to lack of inner flexibility. It could be cultural and completely situational in my case.

No social awkwardness. Unless you count being intentional about it.
And yes, you can be the one who doesn't do what others do and not know custom -- yet still able to be included, sync with others, do more than just fit in; vibe with them, control the entire playing field, etc.

I dunno if eye contact counts. I don't really avoid eye contact -- it's just meaningless to me.
And I very much can use the context of eye contact; it means more to an NT emotionally than it means to me. Though I relish on moments when someone is trying to assert themselves onto me, yet I do not 'back down'...



But honestly, there are several profiles within an autistic.
I don't count on enumeration of 'traits', I count on tendencies and inclinations that had it's own range and can change over time.

My answers are just based on 'the most common experience' and the 'symptom checklist'.

The strict routines / orderliness thing.
I have wicked ADHD.
My routine is to be unstructured and do the best I can.

I don't flap.

I make facial expressions

I don't speak in a monotone.

I don't live on chicken nuggets and french fries cut into the shapes of smiley faces.

I'm not good at math and may have dyscalculia.

I can't play chess.

I'm bad at solving puzzles.

I am highly illogical and my skills, if I have any, lie in art and creativity. But that could be due to the fact that I'm left-handed.

I have a good sense of humor and get jokes and comedy in general.

I have never had what is generally considered to be the overt type of meltdown. I bottle things up, withdraw, shutdown... inner "meltdowns". However perhaps this is more due to a difficult childhood than AS.

I actually need to make eye-contact to be able to get my words out. I don't need complete silence when I'm sleeping.

i need brown noise to sleep.

^^I like brown noise the most.

I can make pretty good small talk. I learned how to do it in the various workplaces I've been in.

I can come up with white lies on the spot. I couldn't do this when I was a kid, it too, was learned.

Meltdowns are very rare.

I can cope with changes easily. Sometimes I've not had a choice.

At 5 yrs old learned to mask most of the traits by rote practice...facial expressions had to be taught to myself by looking in the mirror. at a much later age ... Child abuse has a strange way of inciting a person , who is one the recieving end to be very motivated.to change..Once you figure out the differeces. That might be affecting your own life.

Considering I have yet to be screened, these are reasons I'm constantly in doubt. lol

~I don't speak monotone and I don't think I have flat expressions.
~I'm not gifted at anything.
~I'm okay with most forms of artificial light.
~I don't typically rehearse conversations.
~I find eye contact to be awkward and a little too much, but I tend to be okay at just doing it.
~I was fine with imaginative play with other kids as a child.
~I don't flap.
~I'm sooo bad at math. D:
~Typically I can understand sarcasm.
~I retain employment just fine. (however, I think that's because I'm such a hard worker. My meltdowns when I get off routine could certainly get me in trouble. They just haven't before beyond vocal scolding from management. I assume they go so light on me only because I'm otherwise such a great worker.)

I could add a bunch of ADHD traits, but since we know that AuDHD is a thing, they can coexist in contradictory ways and that's often what I feel... contradictory. lol

I like using metaphors a lot, and generally understand what they mean.
I have high empathy for people’s feelings (though I’m not so good at understanding their intentions)
I don’t generally stim or have meltdowns anymore.
Sensory issues have got a lot better with age.
I have social awareness now and don’t usually seem to offend people
Don’t generally have intense interests about obscure things any more.

I don't have a special interest. I do get hyperfixations but that's probably as a result of my ADHD. When I gain interest in something I won't stop thinking and doing research about it. They never seem to last long though.

There's also this stereotype of people with autism being really good at maths. I guess it can be true for some but I'm the opposite. I'm awful at maths. I sometimes wonder if I might have dyscalculia.

i know that some people hate crowded places, i just think that getting stuck in a place where you dont have an easy time moving around bc of old or crippled people is annoying af. however i never experienced extreme anxiety or something like that.