How much life satisfaction do you get?

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Erjoy29
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12 Mar 2022, 8:40 pm

On a scale of 1-10? 1 being lowest and 10 being highest?

I would rate myself at a 3. Life has been hard for me in many ways but I am still standing. Still eager to learn. What I need to. Whether it be wisdom or anything else.

Learning is what makes me stand.



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12 Mar 2022, 9:00 pm

I feel you on the learning thing!

I would say something of a 7.5-8 right now — I just realized I’m autistic about a month and a half ago, and ever since then, things have been falling into place. Before that it probably would’ve been like, 4.5-5. My life is still very far from what I want it to be, but I have hope now, and to me, that’s the most important thing.


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12 Mar 2022, 9:16 pm

Thanks to a long term decline in physical health life satisfaction is definitely below 5 now though still above 1.


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12 Mar 2022, 9:26 pm

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Just too much pain, suffering and sorrow. I don't show it in the real world, but that's just how I am. I stand because I'm likely too stubborn.



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12 Mar 2022, 9:53 pm

Erjoy29 wrote:
On a scale of 1-10? 1 being lowest and 10 being highest?

I would rate myself at a 3. Life has been hard for me in many ways but I am still standing. Still eager to learn. What I need to. Whether it be wisdom or anything else.

Learning is what makes me stand.


I'm really sorry to hear you're at a 3.



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12 Mar 2022, 10:08 pm

6+
But otherwise limited, held back and somewhat boring.
What keeps this up for me is simply exploring the current scope of said limitation.

I wanted more. Much more.
Just a matter of time I start breaking out of it.


Yes, I'm one ungrateful entitled bastard. :lol:


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12 Mar 2022, 10:37 pm

My (ASD) BFF talk a lot about this. We have opposite personalities. I am confrontational and she is avoidant. I confront life and so I enjoy life at an 8 (a lot), but I also suffer at an 8 (a lot). She avoids life and so she suffers at a 2 (not much), but she enjoys life at a 2 (not much). I am highly satisfied with my effort in life and very dissatisfied with circumstances. She is mildly satisfied with her circumstances and mildly dissatisfied with her effort, or lack thereof.

We have come a long way. We were both beyond miserable in our 20s and much of our 30s (too common for ASD women). For us, the 40s and onward have been great in terms of personal satisfaction. Hang in there!



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12 Mar 2022, 10:42 pm

5-6+ would be for me. I remind myself to look for positives, reframe what stress I can, become aware of "me", when at the lowest...think of something that could make it worst and how you would want to feel the same as where you are currently. I reframed my last depression as much as I could, kinda enjoyed some of it and coped with the lows counting the time in-between. Meditation, nature, exercise, sleep, and food all work for me. Nothing beats a good poop, well, almost nothing but that takes a partner. Why can't life be enjoyed, be satiated with what you are dealt, and cope with it or else?



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13 Mar 2022, 12:42 am

My subjective evaluation varies lot from day to day and moment to moment. Sometimes it's -1000, sometimes a +10. I've been taking a mood stabilising med since about two months ago and it helps.

My life situation is the same and I guess if I should evaluate it from a neutral perspective I'd say it's around 6. There are more positives than negatives, overall. I just wish I was in a stable state to enjoy those positives and make the most of them.



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13 Mar 2022, 12:57 pm

SharonB wrote:
I confront life and so I enjoy life at an 8 (a lot), but I also suffer at an 8 (a lot). She avoids life and so she suffers at a 2 (not much), but she enjoys life at a 2 (not much).


Oh holy moly, I can relate to that so hard. I’ve been very avoidant throughout my life and during my most avoidant phases, it just feels like this grey blank stagnant depression. It’s not active pain, but it really f’ing sucks.

But now that I know I’m autistic, I’ve had the confidence to try and stand up for myself. So when I’m suffering, there’s active consequences in the real world, not just the murky hypothetical of avoidance, and it hurts. Bad. But when I’m happy, I’m goddang happy.

(Edit: Sorry, I swear a lot and I’m still trying to get used to the rule against it here.)


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13 Mar 2022, 2:54 pm

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This is something I have been thinking about recently. I generally just go through the motions on a daily basis. I get little feeling of satisfaction from thing.



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13 Mar 2022, 6:58 pm

Absolutely 10! But it wasn't always this way.
There were 4 severe crash and burns (against conformist authority!) Each went below 3 and each had a slow writing/art-focused reformat- rebounding anti-NT flavor. Now I stay away from all caustic NT conformity, the enemy.



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14 Mar 2022, 12:02 pm

It varies. At the moment about a 3.

I struggle with existential depression a lot. I get very lonely. I'm also affected by stuff on the news. But sometimes when I connect with my spirituality life feels good and I'm at an 8 or 9. Life hasn't been kind to me in all honesty but I keep trying.



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14 Mar 2022, 7:36 pm

My satisfaction with life is probably a 5. I'd be more satisfied if I had a payed job to go to, each day. That will become a reality after I get settled in my new apartment.


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15 Mar 2022, 10:16 am

It might average out to 5, but that would be deceptive. In some areas of life it's 2/3, in others it's 8/9. And some days are good, but some are really bad.


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15 Mar 2022, 10:51 am

In my case it's too variable to allow me to honestly assign a single number to it. It all depends what's been happening to me at the time.