Feelings of guilt due to communication delay I had.

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FranzOren
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20 Apr 2022, 5:26 pm

I feel guilty for pulling my mother's and brother's hair when I was a little.

When I pulled my brother's hair, he started crying, but I still couldn't understand why he was crying. My mom told me not to pull hair many times, and I couldn't understand that I should not pull hair until I did it to myself, that is when I stopped pulling hair.

I know that hurting others is wrong, but I wonder if my symptoms of Autism Spectrum Disorder contributed to that behavior, as I couldn't not understand that consequences for pulling someone's hair until I got older. It's embarrassing!

It's not normal, because I should not experiment on myself to learn not to pull other's hair.

My mom explained to me that most babies are soft when touching hair.



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20 Apr 2022, 5:43 pm

I guess it depends on how little you were...
I know I pulled my brothers (5 years younger) hair quite a lot, my mother told me she found us with me sitting with big chunks of his hair in my hands, and i once stabbed him with a pencil in his back, I believe he still has a dark spot from that.
Kids do these kinds of things. I was perhaps a bit slow to understand that what I did was actually hurting, I don't know what's normal. I must had been around at least 7 or 8.

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20 Apr 2022, 5:47 pm

It makes sense.



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20 Apr 2022, 5:51 pm

I supposedly once said in my defence "It doesn't hurt on HIM", so for me it didn't help to know that the same action would hurt me

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20 Apr 2022, 6:03 pm

It makes sense.