I don't know how I must identify. Help me!
I just discovered what is Klinefelter syndrome and I think it's me. I don't ask you how to get a diagnosis : I'm currently followed by a psychiatrist, so it shouldn't be hard to get diagnosed. What I ask you is how do YOU identify, because I don't understand gender.
In fact, I thought I understood genders, but completely missed the mark. I thought that because I was socially different (I'll post the differences in KS males later on), I needed to identify at something else than a boy.
But from what I understand now, it's not because you are technically divergent from what we see in typical males that you need to identify differently. So I am really confused.
As it seems to be the case with most people with KS, I tend to be :
- Quieter ;
- Less assertive or self-confident ;
- More anxious or feeling like I can't rest ;
- Less physically active ;
- More helpful and eager to please ;
- More obedient and ready to follow directions ;
- Less interested in sex ;
- Less mature...
... Than neurotypical boys.
And in autistic boys with KS, people notice that they are shy and sensitive, as I once was...
I DID notice those traits in me, and was proud of them, I called them « my feminity », so I wanted to be seen as a feminine man and I started to put make up and got a feminizing haircut.
I also feel that I have feminine interests, taste and all in all that I am feminine. But I'm a male, because I like being in men's clothes, being called a man and hanging out with males, and I'm interested in girls and people that I see feminity in their personality.
Personnally, not that I'm asked irl, I feel as though my gender doesn't matter anymore, as what I noticed that was different in me is typically seen with this diagnostic. Why bother get a name for a gender if I even myself consider that I am a man?
That's what I would say as a gender : I'm a male with Klinefelter. It says lots more than the obscure terms that I found like juxeraboy, rosboy or masculina.
(I alternate between them quite often, but my absolute favorite is juxeraboy. I think its definition is swaggy and fits me best!)
I wanna know your experiences and opinion. If it's normal to have a «feminine brain» when you have Klinefelter syndrome and if I should identify as something else than a man if I feel that I'm more «feminine» than an ordinary boy and I wanna show it?
I would absolutely adore reading about you, so please don't be shy...