Greentea,
I noticed you say you live in the middle east. Is that one of the places they don't let women drive?
In the US MOST people can't live without transportation, and many use CARS.
But YEAH, I can relate. TODAY, I am passive, but there WAS a time when I spoke up for myself more. I'm being forced into a corner more and more, so I may soon become agressive again. Anyway, I still remember when a STUPID teacher I had in the 5th grade said to do something, and I started to rip a sheet into two. She said "NO, use ONE piece!"! I said "But that's IMPOSSIBLE!"! She decided to do it herself, found it was impossible, and started to rip the sheet in two and I said "I thought you said you could do it with ONE piece!"! MAN, I will CHERISH that angry look on her face to my grave!
I would tell you something else I found out about today, but I don't want to make it TOO obvious who I am. Let's just say it was similar, but happened in my career.
HECK, one person recently said something, and I was the *****ONLY***** one that responded. One other person said it was a joke, and I shouldn't have answered. Others thought he was serious, and one was GLAD I responded. Oh well, I just found out that his opinion of me has gone from thinking I was barely worth keeping(He really didn't know ANYTHING about me) to one of "MAN, this guy is a genius, and it is great we have him here!"! He basically told my boss that! So I guess I couldn't have adversly affected things TOO much. Still, I may NEVER know if he was joking.
To say "Well, nobody else is complaining" is DUMB! Most of the time people say that to me, it either doesn't apply, because people AREN'T affected, or the people that SHOULD be affected just don't end up realizing the problem, or they have assistance.
BTW It is a shame! I used to speak up more and, though I didn't flaunt my knowledege, etc... if I could help, I STEPPED UP! I guess because many thought I was too assertive, I got too many complaints, etc... And I can understand why some 40+ year olds, some having been to college, may hate a 6 year old explaining to them what is wrong with what they are doing. Today, I am passive, and may go without EVER mentioning that I can help.