how do we all deal with aging, as spectrumites or otherwise

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how do we all deal with aging?
i just grin and bear it :| 24%  24%  [ 7 ]
i age gracefully :D 34%  34%  [ 10 ]
i dunno. :shrug: 24%  24%  [ 7 ]
where's my ice cream? :chef: 17%  17%  [ 5 ]
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24 Oct 2023, 11:27 pm

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"An old young man, will be a young old man." —Ben Franklin

That describes me well. At 68 my mind feels the same as when I was 8...I just have more to forget now.

But I do visit doctors more...

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sounds like you may not have much in the way of aches and stiffness?



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24 Oct 2023, 11:33 pm

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^^^wish i was still that fit. do your best to avoid mr. arthur itis, on pain of pain.


I'm hoping it's easier to get and stay fit now rather than have to do it in a decade or two.

Also, I never got to play hockey as a kid, it's pretty much now or never. I'm one of the oldest on my team, thank god I didn't wait longer. :lol:

ex-army so i was pretty fit all things considered. but age still knocked me for a loop in a way i was not prepared for.


I don't doubt you were fit AF. But, I have heard joint injuries are common among ex-military individuals. Both the sorts athletes get and the ones manual labourers get. They accumulate and one day stuff starts to not work properly.


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25 Oct 2023, 12:07 am

Why is it that when we're young we don't really think about how our parents are probably going to die before we do because they're old? :(

(I'm sorry, I know everyone else hates their parents)



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25 Oct 2023, 12:31 am

funeralxempire wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
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auntblabby wrote:
^^^wish i was still that fit. do your best to avoid mr. arthur itis, on pain of pain.


I'm hoping it's easier to get and stay fit now rather than have to do it in a decade or two.

Also, I never got to play hockey as a kid, it's pretty much now or never. I'm one of the oldest on my team, thank god I didn't wait longer. :lol:

ex-army so i was pretty fit all things considered. but age still knocked me for a loop in a way i was not prepared for.


I don't doubt you were fit AF. But, I have heard joint injuries are common among ex-military individuals. Both the sorts athletes get and the ones manual labourers get. They accumulate and one day stuff starts to not work properly.

SI joint dysfunction and lumbar spondylolisthesis [all the lumbar or low back vertebrae lose their facet supports and start drifting out of alignment in a way that can't be spinally manipulated back in. sciatica. hips bone on bone. right knee acting like something in there is shot. having to wear knee brace and occasionally use cane. i use lumbar traction equipment and experimental electrical therapy via tesla coil and dan dial's molecular enhancer. it is all i can do just to keep being ambulatory.



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25 Oct 2023, 12:32 am

lostonearth35 wrote:
Why is it that when we're young we don't really think about how our parents are probably going to die before we do because they're old? :( (I'm sorry, I know everyone else hates their parents)

because that is usually too far in the future to have any clue.



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25 Oct 2023, 1:00 am

" Slow down...You move too fast ..You got to make the Morning Last" :mrgreen:


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25 Oct 2023, 3:09 am

lostonearth35 wrote:
Why is it that when we're young we don't really think about how our parents are probably going to die before we do because they're old? :(

(I'm sorry, I know everyone else hates their parents)



Hating parents??
Is that a thing ??

I know silly teenagers go through an immature phase of disagreeing with everything their parents say or suggest … but HATE ??



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25 Oct 2023, 5:27 am

I saved and invested so I could retire early and play golf and putter around in my gardens.
Stress reduction by not having to work. The back yard is very private.

I don't know if it helped by planting Zinnias, but I saw more butterflies this year.



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25 Oct 2023, 6:02 am

I'm trying to age gracefully. I'm 70. I'll retire next month.

During the pandemic I lost 140 lbs. (64.5 kg) to get to a healthy BMI. I'm not overweight. I've been able to keep it off for 2 years so far. I'm fit.

I gave up sugar and ultra processed food during my weight loss and I think that's why I don't have arthritis or joint pain yet. I'm on the mediterranean diet now and I cook all my own food. I'm trying to use organic foods most of the time. I'm most fearful about developing a metabolic disease that results in the common old age conditions Diabetes, Cancer, Heart disease, or Dementia.

I'm doing more resistance training now than I've ever done. I'm trying to prevent some of the muscle loss that comes with age. I won't have anyone to take care of me if I lose mobility.

My 2 older brothers died young from cancers (before they were even eligible for social security). My 2 younger sisters are still alive but they complain of joint aches and pains. One sister has had breast cancer but it has been treated with drastic surgery.



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25 Oct 2023, 10:12 am

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I'm trying to age gracefully. I'm 70. I'll retire next month.

During the pandemic I lost 140 lbs. (64.5 kg) to get to a healthy BMI. I'm not overweight. I've been able to keep it off for 2 years so far. I'm fit.

I gave up sugar and ultra processed food during my weight loss and I think that's why I don't have arthritis or joint pain yet. I'm on the mediterranean diet now and I cook all my own food. I'm trying to use organic foods most of the time. I'm most fearful about developing a metabolic disease that results in the common old age conditions Diabetes, Cancer, Heart disease, or Dementia.

I'm doing more resistance training now than I've ever done. I'm trying to prevent some of the muscle loss that comes with age. I won't have anyone to take care of me if I lose mobility.

My 2 older brothers died young from cancers (before they were even eligible for social security). My 2 younger sisters are still alive but they complain of joint aches and pains. One sister has had breast cancer but it has been treated with drastic surgery.


Hang in there....sounds like you are doing better than most of the aging population :D And by seeing what has happened to other members of your family , you might be able to be on the lookout for possible future health issues?
Sorry to hear of your brothers . :( ..Keep up the good work regarding yourself ... :mrgreen:


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25 Oct 2023, 12:41 pm

auntblabby wrote:
aging for us spectrumites may have additional considerations compared to NTs. just my opinion.


You're probably right. I'm not in my 40s yet, but a couple of different doctors now have told me I should really see a rheumatologist. I'm a super active person, even outside of sports. I'm that adult who rides shopping carts anytime I leave the grocery store. Maybe it's a sign that I'm aging so gracefully if I am putting off finding out if I really do have arthritis and/or EDS. :help:



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25 Oct 2023, 2:40 pm

I quote my long gone father frequently. He told me "Getting old is Hell, but it sure beats the alternative"


Every day is a gift, use it and enjoy it to the best of your ability. Even though those abilities have more limitations as we age, we are still capable of finding things to be grateful for as we age.


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25 Oct 2023, 3:02 pm

I pretty much deal with aging by fighting against it by a strict diet and different kinds of physical exercises to adress any issues. Step by step I have escalated my efforts for the last 10 years.


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25 Oct 2023, 3:57 pm

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Only my body feels like it's ageing , my mind is still a teenager. I don't do anything at all to help the ageing process, although I did purchase my first pair of slippers today. Additional considerations? No idea lol

old age sneaks up on one. one day i found myself struggling to walk, with no warning whatsoever.


I’ll second that, Blabby. I’ve been using a walker since last year, after I was operated on for kidney stones. It has now gotten me an eviction notice, due to my not keeping my apartment clean up to HUD standards. I currently working with a social worker trying to get into assisted living. I’m soon will be working with a social worker with the local PACE program, to see if they can find a place. I’d move back in with my brother, except he told me he has no space, and (without saying it) go f!ck myself, ya fat, lazy, no-good motherf!cking sonofabeyotch.



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25 Oct 2023, 4:10 pm

auntblabby wrote:
Double Retired wrote:
"An old young man, will be a young old man." —Ben Franklin

That describes me well. At 68 my mind feels the same as when I was 8...I just have more to forget now.

But I do visit doctors more...

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sounds like you may not have much in the way of aches and stiffness?

I'm a little worn around the edges and I have some replacement parts in my heart but, overall, feel fine.

(I was never athletic...likely due to the problem that caused them to install those replacement parts.)


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25 Oct 2023, 4:14 pm

I'll be 44 next month so I'm still relatively inexperienced with 'aging' in the decline-management sense but a few things that have been relevant:

1) My 30's nearly destroyed my health, I've been recovering, doing light workouts, and supplementing aggressively ever since (enzymes, collagen, vitamins, nootropic mushroom blends, autophagy supplements, etc.).

2) I like walking, it's low impact and keeps my legs in shape. For whatever reason I've noticed that while my legs are pretty large in terms of musculature I notice that my vascular health is touch and go - ie. if I stop walking for a week and try to walk a couple miles I'll be hobbling the first day I get back into it (maybe that will change eventually but for right now it's pretty standard).

3) Stretching and light weights - I do standing splits, touch my toes / ground for a minute several times per week and also have some light weights (again - rebuilding my shoulders). I'd like to get back into something like Vinyasa Yoga or finding a martial arts instructor who could hold a candle to the one I had for over a decade until last year.

4) Microdosing psychedelics - this combines with the mushroom supplements. If I understand Paul Stamets correctly he did some research into stacking a microdose of psilocybin mushroom with Lion's Mane and Niacin (B3) and that it had huge neurogenerative effects - I typically try to take Lion's Mane anytime I microdose.

5) Morning meditation - I do it every day, partly for grounding myself in the intention and purpose of self-reflection, self-improvement, and living my life (to the best of my ability) on the terms I want to live it - even if that means beating my head into the wall of spirituality just enough to keep my orientation out of pure materialist status-chase style living.


Fears?

1) If I end up living alone the big concern is having to deal with predatory dynamics from neighbors wherever I live (legal bullying, etc.).

2) I'm deeply hoping that I can invest my way out of the work world, or at least forced involvement with it. I want to stay busy and still contribute but with the understanding that the moment someone tells me that I need to do something illegal for them I know - at every level - that they need me more than I need them and I'd rather they knew that as well to avoid any confusion. The other obvious piece - being as economically and financially predatory as our culture is I don't want to be used, abused, and rendered homeless in old age - largely because people could care less about each other and would even care less about an autistic guy.

3) Somewhat like 1) but broader - I want to stay on top of how peer predation and bullying changes with age and I want to make sure that I know what I'm in for with respect to my 50's, 60's, 70's, etc. to see if I can get there pre-armed rather than needing a few years of massive trauma every decade of my life to force me to learn the new psychopathy format that my peer group has moved on to.


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