Chronic interrupting

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Here is an aspect of my AS that my wife detests: pre-empting her trying to tell me something.

I seem to think I know what she is going to say, so I interrupt her while she is speaking.
She gets so mad at me for doing this, and of course, I am wrong 99% of the time.
It is quite annoying to me to consistently get into the doghouse with her, but on the other
side, when this happens, I want to play the AS card, which I don't, because then
I am making excuses for being rude (in her opinion).

sigh...

I do this as well...it is VERY hard to change because it feels like a "tic" or a compulsion. It doesn't help that we dont see the non-verbal ques that say when to speak.I think it seems abserd to NT's that we would feel compelled to speak before they are done...but some of us do. Perhaps you can goggle and try and find some information for her to read about this so that she at least understands it intellectually(that you are not doing it to hurt her or be rude)...it will still annoy her but perhaps she will gain a little patience?

I interrupt ppl a lot, its like my brain doesnt realize that theres something going on, just has to blurp out something.

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I've had to force myself to stop doing this as it was getting to the point where I was annoying almost everyone I talked with. I still do it to a degree now but i'm certainly better then I used to be.
The true cause of Aspergers has never been determined but i'm sure part of it has to be genetic as I share the interrupting trait with my mum, though she has never tried to control her habit whereas I have. You'd think she would try to change it as I verbally shoot her down most of the times she will interrupt me.
Of all the family I have that have aspie traits (and I have a really big family) every single one comes from my mothers side. I guess this is a topic for another thread as I don't wish to hijack this one.

I don't think I do this too often, but it depends on my ... mood? Some days I do it more than others, it's like this compulsion. (Especially if they are really slow talkers.) I used to get in trouble for interrupting when I was little, maybe that is what helped me to stop? or perhaps since my mom isn't around to yell at me, I just don't notice it as much.

I know that I have to try REALLY hard not to interrupt my 6 year old, sometimes he just takes forever to get something out, and will go off on tangents mid sentence. (I find that I do a lot of nodding at him, trying to urge him on, i guess.)

I forgot to mention that some of my inturupting is because my brain works faster then their mouths..often I inturupt because I want to say something and know I will forget...will the world end if I dont say what I am thinking...not likely but it sure feels like it at the time .

It may seem silly but if this is also a problem for you,you could try and carry a note book with you and write your thoughts down while she is talking so you can go back and refer to it(short hand notes,enough to remind you of what you wanted to say)but chances are that this will annoy most people as much as the inturupting.Sometimes it sucks to be us

I do this as well, although i do not do it much anymore. Mainly when someone is explaining something incorrectly or making assumptions, i just want to blurt out my opinion or to reexplain the whole thing. Most people seem to be annoyed by this even if they were being lied to, so i don't do it much at all.

I do this a LOT! It's one of the main areas of contention between me and others... but it is SO hard to curb.
I do it because I think I know what they are going to say. (I am usually right, but I am fully aware that this is NO excuse for doing it, and that I am not right 100% of the time.)
I do it because I have HAD A THOUGHT(! !!) and I absolutely must let it out, before I forget it or they move onto another point (the person with whom this is worst is ADHD and tends to jump from point to point without a break for me to respond).
I do this because it is hard for me to keep up with multiple steps or long verbal discourse and I need to break it down for myself to comprehend and respond at all (I suspect a subtype of CAPD and am having this investigated).

The effort of not doing it is so intense that it is like trying to hang onto something (i.e., my silence) while being forcefully dragged away from it (i.e., by my thoughts or need to respond), and it usually takes so much work NOT to interrupt that I end up being unable to listen to anything that is said after the point to which I need to respond.

It's a failing. I know. I have to work on it. AS, CAPD, no matter why, it's not an excuse (though it is an explanation) for inappropriate behavior.

Whenever someone is talking and they pause, I assume they're done and I start talking at the same time they start again. It makes me feel frustrated that I can't get the timing right. Nobody complains about it, but I know it must be annoying to them.

It's actually one of my worst "habits". I'm not sure where it comes from but I can't help myself. It's almost like I'm too impatient to wait for them to finish their own thoughts. I know what they're asking before they get to the end and I just start giving the answers. Those close to me have pointed it out over and over but I can't help myself.

I interrupt people a lot, when I am talking. In any avid discussion I tend to interrupt the speaker and want to do all the talking.

I do it because I'm sure I know what the other will say or because I think thy are speaking too slow. I'm correct quite often. However, this does not mean who I am talking to appreciates the interruption at all. Most of the time, it's quite the opposite reaction and they get all angry at me for being a 'smart ass'.

One thing I do that drives people mad is when people are mid sentence and they forget somebody's name I then start reeling off all the girls names or all the boys names that I know. Im really trying to stop but its totally impulsive and really annoys people.