What puts people off you?

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I'm asking those who, like me, put most people off them.

I don't have the faintiest idea what it is in my case...

In my case it's because I don't have anything 'typical' to talk about (including interesting social life, football etc...) anything i'm interested in will make me seem pretentious or murderously deranged. (philosohpy; serial killers and torture, respectively) and so I stay quiet and don't communicate.

My lack of body language and tonal inflections. Since 80% of NT communication is non-verbal they can only understand 20% of what I am saying. Plus I have absolutely no interest in sports or pop culture so therefore I have nothing to say to them.

for me i think i repel people at the point when they reaslise i am not shy but that i cannot open up and express myself in the way deemed necessary for a friendship to occur.

that and when i pick my hands obsessively or twitch too much in public - probably all quite unnerving to the unsuspecting out there.

I'm horrifying.

Get off me, get off my cloud topic

It is the reason I kill threads: honesty. It's a reason I lose jobs. People ask you something, and then they do not want to hear the answer. What, for the love of Pete, did they want to hear? I am not going to whisper sweet nothings in their ears.
And i am not going to change. People are brutally honest with me, and I return in kind. Nuff said.

Thanks, Greentea, for the great topic. You have always been someone I can trust because you are upfront about your intentions.

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Crazy, wide staring eyes; diabolical goatee beard and a large well sharpened felling ax and two pitbull terriers and punching people when they take the piss out of me.

I haven't the foggiest, but when I'm not talking, but instead just standing or walking somewhere, people are put off by me. The reaction that then follows usually varies a lot, some people just leave repelled, some stare at me and some actually try to do something mean to me, usually the youngsters.

I don't think there's something odd about me, I've been told I look normal. I can't imagine why people react like this when they just see me walking down a street. My posture is perfectly normal too, although I usually look in the ground to not get confused by my surroundings. But that's not odd, it may just mean I'm shy, so this can't be it either.

cause i'm always "tired" or something...

...this presents a problem for me when trying to get to know a woman better....

I would say the same as Sora... I've been told (by my Asperger's specialist psy) that my body language, posture, eye contact etc.... are all good. I look perfectly normal.... And she doesn't understand that poeples have reactions to me. I think she doesn't even beleive, she asks for precise examples, but we know those are too subtil to get reasonable wordy explanations.... and when i say things like "they stare at me", she trys to convince me it's in my head..... oh well..... so to answer the very subject of the post: "OMG!! ! if only i knew ! !".....

Mine has also trouble to believe me. But since all my friends have already confirmed that compared to one-on-one situations I'm extremely different in public, this is hopefully proof enough that this is reality.

I know lots of examples, because many reactions to me are not subtle, but very provocation, but it seems that my therapist has never seen this side of me and thus has trouble to understand that there is something very off about me. I tried to avoid this topic for now, but I guess, with school being out soon that I must discuss it again.

I'm a crazy cat lady. I talk about my cats as many people talk about their children.

People say I'm a snob or distant. I tried to make a few years ago but she dropped me because she said she didn't know anything about me. I sometimes don't recognize when people wave at me or say hi, and they think I'm ignoring them.

I haven't the faintest...

Same here. I have no interest in popular culture. I bore people and they bore me.