do they have as?

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almost all the people i have met through wrongplanet irc chat and forum seem to have good conversation skill.atleast better than me in terms of communication.but i assume difficult with conversation is the one of the major characteristics of asperger.so, do these people have asperger?or am i more of a low functioning in terms of communication?

Bear in mind that a lot of the problems faced by those with an ASD are perpetuated by factors that are removed when conversing online. For example, there is no body language to worry about, no eye-contact to maintain, and there is plenty of time to consider a reply rather than the pressure of face-to-face real-time conversation.

I imagine that a lot of people who can't 'do' social actually find themselves with little to no problem in an online environment. For me, it was a godsend. A medium where my social skills actually weren't horribly stunted and I was finally able to make friends. Hallelujah!

I for one find it much easier to communicate by typing rather than speaking even though i get embarassed by being a poor speller and sometimes can't write words in the proper order. I think if we had to actually talk to each other it would be a very silent place.

Its easier to chat online than it is in real life. You are reading instead of hearing people talk so you won't miss a thing they say unless you don't read the whole chat.

I really don't like chat rooms TBH so I avoid them. It gets confusing and I don't know what people are talking about, people can be discussing different things and it can be hard to talk to someone because they might not see your IM because so many others are typing and IMing and you might not know the person answered your question. If it's a few people in the room, I am okay. I have been in the WP chat room a few times but haven't been back since summer of 2007.

I can type long messages on msn or a forum but will usually talk only to my friends in real life. Becaude being online gives you new opportunity, like being anonymous and having no barrier. People don't know who you are and how you deal with life. They can't know whether you are shy or have a problem because writing is not talking, you only need to think about a word and your hands do the talking. I have no fears on the Internet, apart from being recognized by someone because they would things I don't say to everyone.
When you're online, there's no such phrase as "Look at me", "stop staring" and you can use smileys to show your "facial expression" without people being confused.
But when I first met someone whom I knew online (my brother's best friend), I didn't talk much to him... There's something different in real life.

One is : you can start almost any debate you can think of on the Internet, you have to behave differently in real life because it changes the impression people have of you. I don't have the "right type of conversation" in real life, I don't need to have them online.

I usually don't go on chatrooms because I feel dumb there.

i have learned social skills through a rehab. I also spent five years going to meetings EVERY FRIGGING day to force myself to learn. the way i do it is different from others. i find snatches of phrases or single words and piece the meanings together through a kind of mental patchwokring of pictures. IT is best if i do not look at the eyes , but at the teeth and the outline fuzz of the face or look away a lot. it works for me but takes a lot of effort. i have a tendency to bombard verbally (the AS monologue) and if i stay silent i have very visible stimming issues. i can talk one on one. i cannot cope with groups. very hard. although i did go out the other night and was very silent and stimmed the whole time. But i felt proud of myself for going.

when i was young i looked down at the ground. i covered my face with long brown hair and actually got told i looked like Cousin IT. those days are over...thank god.

in my family unit i could converse - but i am told I was either ON or OFF. no in between. no emotion regulation. No verbal regulation. A delight and tendency towards information gathering and facts and details. no interest in social fluff.

I like very much to read and post on WP. I'm maybe too old for the chat stuff, but to post in a forum like this is no problem. I have noticed that people with a high degree of AS are perfectly capable to express their meanings here. I just joined this site to find out more about AS, cause I suspect I have it.

I have always found it difficult to post online. I've been known to spend hours trying to reply to someone that has given me a reason to reply. Sometimes I don't reply, it's because i can't think of anything to type, same goes for real life. Sometimes I reply with a 'thank you' and very little else to say.

Thanks for your post. I have been struggling with similar feelings. I'm very closed in my communication skills. And, just typing my thoughts can be very difficult. But I think it's a step in the right direction for me.