This may sound silly...

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But does it bother you when someone says you can't read people because of AS? (Or that you can't do something else because of your AS?) It bothers me because I hate it when people say I can't do something (because they have no right to say that), and there's also another reason but I can't put my finger on it.


That's why I didn't want people to know about my AS diagnosis when I was in high school. I didn't want them to treat me like I couldn't read people and explain everything to me like I was stupid.

Yes. My mom has constantly told me I couldn't do things "because you don't have the social skills for that!" (but she refuses to acknowledge my diagnosis because she sees it as a crutch).

She has no idea how I manipulated my professors in college, my teachers in high school, and even her her entire life. I'm great with people because I don't see them the same way as she does.

Yes it does. There's nothing other people can do that I can't do, just some things that require more effort than most. Much like every other person that has ever lived.

It doens't bother me, but I do get that on occasion.

I can read people very well.

You are just as able as anyone else, its just certain things may be inhibited, but you can get your way through them.
Having aspergers there are negatives aswell as positives, so over all the two cancel each other out.

Whenever people try to dumb things down for me or tell me that I'm not capable of something, I respond with laughter because I know it's a bunch of crap. "Reading" can be learned by just about anyone, no matter how inhibited they may be initially. After years of studying psychology, sociology, and NTs in their natural habitat, I more often than not read people better than supposed "normal" people can. I think we just see things in a different light and with the right information, we can see things clearer than they know.

The truth doesn't bother me.

A lie about me bothers me so much that I'm close to a meltdown.

I hate how some people might think I'm empathic or can read people well.

First of all, it's plain not true. It's like a horrid joke.
Furthermore, there'll be a situation one day at which I'm required to do what I can not. And everybody's going to go crazy over the fact that I cannot do it.

Yeah it does bother me. Haha after having parents push me to make it as far as to do a course at uni, they were today saying it would be okay if i dropped and i became a postie or a courier driver.

Nobody tells me that, but I am learning, slowly, how much I DO miss. Some of that is a benefit.

An aspie on another forum kept saying to me a few times how am I supposed to know someone misread something or whatever if I can't even read people. This is the internet so how the heck would he know if I can or can't? Is it written all over my posts?

I really can't read people very well..and I don't mind when it is acknowledged.
The only person to my knowledge who really understands this about me is Flakey...It will be brought up from time to time...like when I find myself confused by someone and mention it to him...

I used to have this issue, but not so much anymore.

It even bothers me when people think I'm inhibited.

The only things I ever hear are "She's not strong enough to do that" and stuff along those lines, which is fine with me because that just means less work.

I do get kinda peeved when references are made to how naturally bad I am with people.
I may be lacking somewhat in standard conventional social skills, but I have my own form of social skills, and considering the number of people I often have to deal with and/or host as guests in my house, I think that i do a pretty good job for the most part...Maybe not like some NT type who can happily chat everyone up and make them feel like they have known each other for the last ten years when they have just met..but..better than nothing at all.
The difficulty I have with reading people helps me treat everyone equally...(unless, for whatever reason, they really happen to make me nervous or get on my nerves)