What "social rule" do you dislike the most?

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I dislike having to converse with people. I also dislike greeting people, but at least I can force myself to do it.

Asking about others when you really don't care.

Neighbor:"How are you??"
Me: Good. (supposed to say, "Good! And you?"

Meh.

Not a social rule, as such, but I dislike how if you're a girl and you're friends with a boy, as soon as he gets a girlfriend, suddenly you're not really allowed to act the same way around him as you used to because the girlfriends usually get all jealous, so suddenly you're not really allowed to be his friend anymore.

The pecking order, namely the fact that everyone is expected to behave differently to those they need more than need them, and to those that need them more than they do. The fact that people take s**t from above and dish it down. I despise this rule with a vengeance.

Perhaps the "eye contact." You're supposed to give it when socialising yet it can be hard sometimes.

No flatulence in public. I mean, come on.

I hate it when every person greets me. The worst is when there's a gathering at my place or that of another and everyone says, "Hello. How are you?" I always have to be 'good' or 'fine', just like them. Then they ask me how my family is and how school is. Why can't we have a discussion about something emotionless rather than catching up on each other's news. It's predictable and it's my least favorite routine. I'd rather kill myself than feel an emotion about violence. This is why I have used drugs to get chronic depersonalization. I'm empty (emotionally) and safe (feeling) but empty makes me suicidal but I take care of that by doing research on psychopaths and by stealing things to sell on the black market to fund certain charities.

I fund charities to help protect people against psychopaths. My one friend is a psychopath and I have been harming him to keep myself independent. I can do everything for myself and I don't need the help of others. Someone says I'm f****d up but what the actual reason (reality) is is damage to the frontal lobe and mirror neurons, resulting in certain personality traits that people consider to constitute AS.

All the pointless crap you have to do just "because it's good manners" like saying please and thank you all the time and closing my mouth when I'm eating (I hate it when my mum tells me to do that! )

I'll tell you the one thing I dislike the most. It's when people talk behind my back and then decide what their next move will be without consulting me so that when I am around there's a plot I am unaware of the others are privy to. Whatever someone has to say I wish they would say it to my face, in front of me and then give me a chance to defend myself or prove they are wrong. If they give me a chance to argue they learn really quickly how inaccurate they are. When this has happened in the past people have gotten jealous. They pigeon hole me. I am their pigeon.
What I like is honest dialogue. For instance, if someone think's I am slow say it to me and give me a chance to prove I'm not. Don't just assume I am and tell everyone I am when I'm not around. That's the one thing that really gets under my skin.

Having to verbally acknowledge people ['acquaintances'] / exchange 'pleasntries' every time you see them or else you are considered rude - in times where I just push myself to do this when I really don't want to [but because it is what is expected] it just makes me feel irritable at myself so I learn to please myself much more again now.

I hate that there are these so called, invisible, but set 'rules' - it feels far from natural for me and like being trapped.

Not people able to tell people the cold hard truth.

For example.

"what do you think of this dress?"

"It looks really great"......

hmmm

The pecking order I hate as well. It doesn't make any sense.

The social rule of having to make your company feel right at home while wishing they were somewhere else.

I'm beyond sick and tired of this one 'I deaf... not' thing. What makes me so mad here is when people tell me to "speak up". why does it royaly piss me off? Because the louder I talk the deafer they are! Thirdly, most NTs pull this mind game I can't stand of "oh I can't hear you now... but will tune when it suits me." when I talk to myself... halleluya, it's a miracle, they suddenly hear every word. That isn't just rude... it's freaking controling, imo!


The social rule is to speak loudly only to be made fun of later. It sucks!