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05 Mar 2009, 3:27 am

It's an up and down way of life but for me it's a life still in great demand.


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05 Mar 2009, 3:42 am

Of course, I don't reject it and I don't lament it or wish I'd been created some other way. It just "is."

But it "is" a curse. That's a reality.


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05 Mar 2009, 3:53 am

-Socially dead, but he doesn't care (if people don't like it, good for them; they don't have to be around him)
-He can't stand around in the presence of people, for they make him very uncomfortable, but he doesn't mind being by himself, so it works out
-He's very, very sensitive to noise and movements, which are quite annoying in many situations (enough to require medication, which only takes the edge off), but it can help with things like hunting and listening for stuff
-He needs a plan beforehand to go through with an action, which is quite restricting for others if they want something of him then and there, but he puts a lot of thought into it, so he tends to do an adequate job when he does an action
-Different type of intelligence, which poses problems with certain social schooling subjects, but it helps with other things, like specialising, focusing and obsessing over that one thing
-He has no empathy, and he doesn't care
-He can barely talk to people, but he doesn't care
-He doesn't feel physical pain, which he is indifferent to
-He feels emotional pain very clearly, which he doesn't like
-He has only a few emotions; he likes it that he lacks belief and faith, but he sometimes gets annoyed with the amount of hate he has

That's it (all of the social impairments come under "Socially dead").



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05 Mar 2009, 5:04 am

Danielismyname wrote:
-Socially dead, but he doesn't care (if people don't like it, good for them; they don't have to be around him)
-He can't stand around in the presence of people, for they make him very uncomfortable, but he doesn't mind being by himself, so it works out
-He's very, very sensitive to noise and movements, which are quite annoying in many situations (enough to require medication, which only takes the edge off), but it can help with things like hunting and listening for stuff
-He needs a plan beforehand to go through with an action, which is quite restricting for others if they want something of him then and there, but he puts a lot of thought into it, so he tends to do an adequate job when he does an action
-Different type of intelligence, which poses problems with certain social schooling subjects, but it helps with other things, like specialising, focusing and obsessing over that one thing
-He has no empathy, and he doesn't care
-He can barely talk to people, but he doesn't care
-He doesn't feel physical pain, which he is indifferent to
-He feels emotional pain very clearly, which he doesn't like
-He has only a few emotions; he likes it that he lacks belief and faith, but he sometimes gets annoyed with the amount of hate he has

That's it (all of the social impairments come under "Socially dead").


Sadly I have alot of the things daniel does but the main problem is I do care, I feel alot like a person who is cursed to walk the earth watching what he wants the most but can never have. I have formed a few very close relationships with friends and nothing more, but the want is there....so I say yet!



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05 Mar 2009, 5:19 am

It is whatever I make of it. I do not see it as a curse and because of that it isn't.


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05 Mar 2009, 5:22 am

I just discovered this website... And signed up immediately, thankful that there are other people I can talk to about my little... problem.

For me it's a gift disguised as a curse. It's rather unsettling when you suddenly find yourself getting way too excited over something and end up talking just a few hundred decibels too loud ^_^;;. And flirting? Hah. I have a hard time joke flirting without feeling awkward, let alone real flirting. The constant ticks that cause your muscles to become strained, the incessant tiny obsessions that play out, the overreacting to things, need I go on? Though it is nice after so many lessons and speech classes that I can read people like a book, even ones I don't even know.

I don't hate having it, I mean it does have it's benefits... though none I can think of at two in the morning. It's nice being different :)


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05 Mar 2009, 5:53 am

I have to agree with most of the posts in that I feel that my AS is both a blessing and a curse. The most beneficial aspect of my AS is the focus I can give my special interests. This has enabled me to get a degree in a subject that I love. I also enjoy the somewhat unique perspective on humanity that my AS gives me (and I suppose many others on this site would agree with me). It is quite liberating to be able to think outside the constraints of NT society and observe their strange and often faintly ludicrous behaviours :wink:. There are however downsides, I cannot get a job beyond unpaid voluntary work (I graduated more than 3 years ago) because I have to compete against NT's in their areas of strength and my areas of weakness (I'm moderate to severe AS). I also have issues with the loneliness inherent to aspies in that I have few friends and zero romantic interests. The sensory problems are also a bit of a nuisance and get in the way of expected NT social events (e.g. parties).

And I'm done!



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05 Mar 2009, 12:18 pm

Mine seems to be a big "obsession creator." Just look at my username, sig, avatar and posts and you'll see what I mean. I also see mine as something that gave me talents but also bad social skills.


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05 Mar 2009, 12:46 pm

A wonderful blessing from my heavenly father ^_^


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05 Mar 2009, 2:19 pm

too normal to be obviously wrong.

too emotional; so i'm obviously blatantly and intentionally irrational

wrong wrong wrong alone

i will disappear into the wild yet.


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05 Mar 2009, 3:08 pm

It's like a serious version of 3rd rock from the sun
Also I don't see it as blessing or a curse, just something that happens to be there.


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05 Mar 2009, 3:09 pm

Padium wrote:
So anyways, how do you view your ASD?

in a phrase...

Anxious, High-Functioning Asperger's Syndrome with a dash of OCD.

I lean towards the idea of high-functioning, because I went to college, can hold down a job, can drive, can manage basic responsibilities without too much trouble.
But it still impairs my life in a lot of insidious ways, mostly social.

The anxiety is always there as well. Whatever neurological traits I demonstrate with AS are intensified through anxiety.

OCD explains a lot of the repetitive thoughts I get, as well as certain patterns of behaviour I demonstrate.

That's about it. I'm trying to restrain myself when it comes to details here, cause I will go on forever.... :roll:


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05 Mar 2009, 3:24 pm

Acacia wrote:
Padium wrote:
So anyways, how do you view your ASD?
I lean towards the idea of high-functioning, because I went to college, can hold down a job, can drive, can manage basic responsibilities without too much trouble.
But it still impairs my life in a lot of insidious ways, mostly social.


I am like that, except i have trouble meeting deadlines, and even more trouble with personal organization and hygiene... I need either a routine, or someone to remind me.



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05 Mar 2009, 3:26 pm

Padium wrote:
Acacia wrote:
Padium wrote:
So anyways, how do you view your ASD?
I lean towards the idea of high-functioning, because I went to college, can hold down a job, can drive, can manage basic responsibilities without too much trouble.
But it still impairs my life in a lot of insidious ways, mostly social.


I am like that, except i have trouble meeting deadlines, and even more trouble with personal organization and hygiene... I need either a routine, or someone to remind me.


I'm just the same padium, except for the hygiene bit, I'm hygiene mad.


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05 Mar 2009, 4:28 pm

It is what it is.

(It's not who I am)


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05 Mar 2009, 10:44 pm

The more I learn about myself, the more I am thankful to be like I am...

I have a good B.S. detector or disinhibitor... Tell like it is and it offends some people.... those that like to hide themselves and b.s. and other stuff liek that...

Being eccentric or wierd, those who would look to use me for their own good are discouraged because of my wierdness. It is something like a built-in person sifter... sifting merryweather friends... Those who would be honestly interested in being friends will not be dettered by my eccentric tendencies...

Having an added resistance to vain and stupid stuff... the keeping up with the jonses attitude, fashion and hte latest and the greatest... lot of unnecessary stuff...

Also, the compulsiveness or eccentric attachments can have a good side to it... I have an attachment to a ti-85 calculator that i have had in my coat for years... recently I bought a cell phone, dont use it but I carry that around in my coat... I would rather have this type of behavior than the behavior of trying to attach myself or extend myself to attach to other people and do stupid things in a group.... like drugs, stupid and vain behaviors or other things NT's do together.

I may not be the social type.... parts of me that still make me a member of the human race suffer... the desire for companionship, and mutual acceptance in a group... overall, in the days that were in it is probally more healthy to be an Autie/Aspie.

We can see the apparent negatives in ourselves and dewell in them while looking on the other side of the fence where th grass looks greener, or do what I have been striving to do for years and see the grass on your side of the fence and make this grass taht is yours greener than the grass over there, nad green to your liking at that!