My social situation even now, with people I like...

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Yes I know...we'll never have the social skills to truly have anywhere near an amazing social life, or anything, but it appears things can get limited even with people we like...not necessarily actual friends, just people we work with and whatnot.

'Need proof? I was in the finance office at work last night, and the people behind the counter were making some jokes to my co-workers, one of which smacked me right in the face, as it was in the vicinity if my interests and whatnot. I tried joining in, with some joking commentary...and everytime I tried someone interrupted me, as though I was completely invisible to everybody, and it wouldn't matter if I said I were dancing around naked in a porn movie as a stand-in for Ron Jeremy.

But, I guess at this point I shouldn't be surprised.

I even have "work friends", but as you know, they're people I socialize with at work, but that's about as far as it goes. Whoever I manage to socialize with outside of work is basically thanks to my room-mate, who's a social butterfly.

In fact, my room-mate/business partner and I are currently working on a major project for our retail website with these folks over in Illinois who do an online toy show, reviewing old toys and stuff like that. Now, these guys are very cool, and talk with my partner a lot; he's hoping they'll be good friends of ours in the long run; I recently even suggested to them on my end hopefully we'd become closer....yeah, that probably wasn't the smartest move on my end; though if he has anything to say about it, I think the situation might be likely.

I'll conclude this post with a bit of a realization I was discussing with my girlfriend on the phone last night: I realize many of you are in high school, and are able to experience it differently than I was able to, due to the fact that you were diagnosed already, whereas I didn't get diagnosed 'til after I'd left high school. So, for me, all the realizations of things that happened back then are one of those "looking at it in hindsight" type situations.

One thing I tried to explain to my girlfriend--which utterly shocked her, might I add--in regards to how bad things usually are for us, socially: I told her that when I tried to make friends with people as a kid, the "friendship" didn't usually make it past the "friendship" handshake...and I'm sure for most of you, it was probably the same.

I can relate so for as having friends in school who were just that. School friends. I also had friends in sports teams and whilst being part of community activities. And again they were only limited to those specific locations and activities. I dont know what it was about me, but I just think people didn't find me interesting enough to want to share time with me beyond the structure of the above environments, and I prefered not being away from those structures. Being ignored by people can be tough, sorry to hear that, thats happened to me a lot aswell.

Yesterday in math class, a random girl asked if I would be her friend. I said yeah. I will probably never speak to her again.

Real friendships just happen, people don't just go round declaring who is and isn't their friend. Not people I know, anyway.

I get that a lot at school. Being ignored. I'll suggest something, or even ask something, and people will regard it as an idiotic idea. It's really annoying, because then 10 minutes later someone will say it and it's automatically an amazing idea.
I've also tried to get friends of mine to go to the cinemas with me and they've always been 'busy'. Eventually I stopped talking to them(not because of that) and now they go to the cinemas every week...
EMZ.