Irritated by observed treatment of autistic kid

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There is a kid who I have noticed in the neighborhood where I work during the day. Really, I don't know how old he is..I assume he is a teenager. Anywhoo, I am pretty sure, based on observing his behavior, that he is autistic...at first I wasn't sure whether or not he was verbal, until today when I went to to drop off flyers at the coffee house near where I always see him and he was having a conversation with a guy who was sitting on the porch. The guy seemed very much like an nT, and he seemed to have very little patience for the kid who was rambling along on various subjects..I was irritated when I overheard the kid very innocently interrupt one of the NT guy's sentences..and get somewhat severely repremanded for it. I thought it was uncalled for. It was an innocent interruption. I can think of numerous times when I have made a similar slip in conversation, and several times when while speaking, a person has interrupted me...and it troubled me because it seemed like the kid was being disrespected by this person who seemed to have little patience for him....dunnow..I had a point somewhere...I guess it was all in the interest of teaching him "social skills" or something....but I could not stop feeling troubled by the way it seemed like the kid was getting undermined I guess.

The other person might have felt that the interruption was rude, I think. That's why you aren't supposed to interrupt people, because it's rude.

I also think it's rude if somebody try to interrupt me all the time though I interrupt others constantly. I get annoyed if the kids do it because they weren't taught not to interrupt though they would not have any trouble with it unlike the ADH kids who just can't stop.

If you have social skills, then interrupting another signals that you don't really care to hear what they have to say. It's the most rude thing to shut someone up by interrupting them.

Of course, if the child is trying but can't help it it's plain stupid to show any annoyance. I don't usually mind when one of the kids with ADHD I support interrupt me.

Although I sure get annoyed and get really strict and reprimand them, when I'm just about to start the same sentence for the 3rd time because the kid won't stay quiet and isn't even trying to stay focussed at all.

It was not that blatant of an interruption on the part of the kid. He might have been unaware that the NT guy was starting another sentence.. and it seemed like the NT guy didn't care about what the kid was saying and was in the midst of trying to change the subject when it occurred. The kid was just continuing his original train of thought, unaware of the annoyance of the NT guy, whose outburst seemed like it might have been an attempt to get the kid to shut up.

Sorry..I am reading too much into this....it may not even had been as it seemed. It was just an interesting dynamic to observe.

NTs use negativity and bullying behavior to try to send social signals to each other that behavior is good or bad, respected or disrespected. They use rudeness and negativity when empathy fails, to make someone feel bad for being insensitive or making social faux pas. What NTs don't realize is that AS can't read that.

It's not great social behavior on the part of the NT. He was being rude in response to perceived rudeness.