"I want to be alone"

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Does not mean "I hate you - leave me alone". Some NT's think I mean the latter. Sometimes I can't deal with situations so I just want some time on my own to get over it. For example I was in a liquor store and I started to feel uncomfortable (sensory/emotional/anxiety) and had a minor shutdown and when I told my mum I wanted to be alone she said 'well sorry!' in a sarcastic offended type of way.
It didn't take long at all to get over the shut down, but when I started to talk to my mum again she just ignored me.

I'm getting so sick of this. Maybe I'll just become non-verbal to her for good.

Yeah, to most normal people it means you don't like them at that moment in time and you don't want to be around them because they're somehow disgusting to you; which is silly, but that's how it goes.

Most "normal" people tend to interpret things that are asocial as negative, even if they aren't.

Introverted people know what you mean when you say you want to be alone, while insightful, perceptive extraverts can imagine what you mean.

I totally know what you mean. I just don't care if people get offended anymore.

Happens in my house all the time, Penseive.
I want to be alone and [/b]leave me alone[b] does not mean i hate anyone.

it means I need time out and cannot cope with one more exchange with a human being.

Right now, I am on my little bed in my little room and others have come in , called and craved interaction with me on and off all afternoon. I just do not have it to give...although i did go out and give my son firm hugs and cuddles before he went to bed.

hope your mum can get the message sooner rather than later.

Every time I try to explain it she will be like 'well how are you going to be in a job?' As if that has anything to do with anything.
I need to word it properly:
"I am not like you. I prefer to be on my own. This doesn't mean I dislike you but it's how I cope with stressful situations."
So much easier to type than say though.

Maybe you should write her a letter?

I agree with the above suggestion.
also, tell her or write to her about strategies for people with an ASD. Part of that is incorporating into one;s daily life the ESSENTIAL NEED for time out if one reaches overwhelm.
It is so important for us and if we incorporate it into our lives as an essential (like air) then we prevent the BIG MELTDOWNS.

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Yes, that's a good idea. Thanks animal and millie.

This is a good way of saying that you want to be on your own. I have had a hard couple of months which was kicked off by the death of someone close to me and went downhill from there. I needed a lot of time on my own to cope with this stress and had to say to friends and family that it wasnt personal but that I just needed time alone. Some have understood, some have not. But I am not worrying about those that have not these days

Yeah I hate how people take it as hostility when you want time alone. It doesn't mean I'm angry at them, just means I'm emotionally raw or overloaded.