subliculous wrote:
oh, definitely one of my main (and most uncomfortable) problems. i'm worst around young women. the more vapid and generic they are, the worse i am. also stoic, rural, conservative types. if i can tell a person is "different" or individualistic in any way, be they artist, hippie, punk, lefty, outcast, neurotic, goofball, hooker, minority, eccentric, i usually have no problem. but the more normal they are, the more i close down.
True enough, the type of person I'm around does have a big effect on how comfortable I am and how well I'm able to speak. I'm actually alot more comfortable with people who are down to earth with no pretenses, who say what they feel and mean what they say (and talk alot). People who might be called 'rough' or 'common' by some people, salt of the earth types who don't give a f**k.
Simple really, those types of people have fewer expectations of how you should behave or be, making it easier to socialise with them. In other words, you can make less mistakes, so your genuine anxiety is lessened.