Just need help coping with realization that I'm have ASD

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20 May 2024, 5:00 pm

I would add that I don't think I'm especially clever. I'm moderately clever, but I've learned along the way that it's important to accept that there are many people more clever than me out there. In that situation I described I had just been working on the task for a few days, so had learned some things in that time that were useful. I wanted to share that information without coming across as a know-it-all, to speed along our work. But I still might have come across as a know-it-all to the boss. But, live and learn I guess.



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20 May 2024, 7:30 pm

I'd take that drink offered in the first post...and welcome you to Wrong Planet...adjusting to new information can take alittle while to adjust to ..?


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20 May 2024, 9:58 pm

Oops, yes, sorry original poster. I enjoyed the conversation ToughDiamond, thanks for chatting :)



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24 May 2024, 4:12 am

Though since no one else has followed up after the last post, I will follow up and say that I am now regretting speaking up to the boss as I described and a few other similar actions. That's something I think of as an HFA trait -- struggling to "go with the flow" and do the thing that is more socially or interpersonally correct when it would mean doing something that seems less logically or "factually" correct.

Note: Edited the post to be less whingey.



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24 May 2024, 7:15 am

it will be a lifelong learning experience, I think...And searching for contacts fir a dx is a good thing . Perhaps making associations with other ASD people might be a benefit especially if you can find ones that are on a similiar level to yourself ,,( as ASD is a spectrum...) . You may very well meet some very good people or can meet the opposite.
Might try to figure things that interest you , Could be good and beneficial to you . Swell as you may find you may develop unique insights about things . Be aware your health needs as you age maybe different then others persons.
But you might be able to use more information as reference info. And expand heathly things ,more or less.
That may be directly helpful to your overall health..


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06 Jun 2024, 8:56 am

I still think, twenty years after diagnosis, that it’s the NTs have the real problem. Without even being aware of it, they exclude us. OK, without awareness we go along with that. With awareness we become resigned to it.

Undiagnosed or unaware adult autistics are the cement in the concrete of social structures. By “getting along” with the people around them they strengthen resistance to change. And here we are, centuries later, flirting with nuclear war and ignoring planetary warming that’ll kill us all. Me, I’m old. I’ll be dead anyway before it gets really bad. But it’s a sad end for something that held great promise.



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17 Jun 2024, 4:08 pm

I am sorry that you have had a tough time. I am going through the same thing now, and am a bit older than you. I have tried to get a good dx for years and finally, I have someone who gets my issues on a broader level. If you feel that you need a validation of your experience from a professional, then it could be worth the effort and expense. Reframing my life has been painful. But, in some ways it has helped me because I always blamed myself for not being good enough and not being able to make the changes that could have brought me more happiness and success. Now I realize how complex my issues have been. The other advantage of getting a dx is going out and finding a community that can accept you as you are and not judge you. I wish you well.



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17 Jun 2024, 9:52 pm

Agrees with DoingmyBest......and btw Welcome to this here WrongPlanet.. :D


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