kirayng wrote:
I'm so busy working full-time, a physical job that exerts me that way too.... also I don't make a lot of money so I have to "juggle" my bills around (nightmare itself)... I'm fully loaded, to the max, no more reserve energy for anything; so, with this in mind, I have begun to see things like, visiting my parents, as more "chores" or "things I have to do" Because it's ALL THINGS I HAVE TO DO! There is so little me time right now that I can count the hours in a week on one hand. Yeah, starting to really want to hide, and I keep having these times at work or with my husband or on an outing that I'm not enjoying myself at all, just keep thinking about how much I have to get done or figure out by a certain time-- ALL THE TIME.
So, asking people here, do you find yourselves ever putting important people on your "to-do list" because you can't switch gears to "having fun" from "doing @(%&$#%crazy amount of work"!? It's causing some hurt feelings and I wish terribly to stop, but I have two modes, work and play... I try to play while I work and work while I play but it doesn't work out very well at all. Also scheduling me time seems selfish... I take an extra 5 or 10 minutes in my car here or there or maybe try to hurry to finish my work early to have an hour before I see my husband after he gets out of work.
Can anyone relate to this? I end up with lots of frustration and negative emotions; further pushing people away when I don't want to.
Yes. Absolutely relate. Currently making drastic changes due to burnout contributed to by exactly this kind of scenario. Take care of yourself.
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