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23 Sep 2014, 3:40 pm

This young guy - 32 years old - starts talking to me at the bus transfer station the other day. I'll spare the details but I ended up going back to his place and having sex with him. He texted me a few times after but I told him we should just leave it at what it was. The thing is that I have no particular feeling about this encounter. The best part was when he held me after which I am not use to. But I didn't feel anything for him other than I would anyone whose path I crossed. So I this autism or sociopathy or acute depersonalization? Or maybe just the result of being jaded from past experiences? Any one have a similar experience?



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23 Sep 2014, 3:54 pm

no labels needed. booty calls don't necessarily have emotions attached.



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23 Sep 2014, 3:58 pm

cathylynn wrote:
no labels needed. booty calls don't necessarily have emotions attached.


I'm not sure why I even did it - maybe loneliness combined with his desire to have sex with me.



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27 Sep 2014, 7:00 am

If you had a good time, does it matter why you did it? :) Sometimes humans have a tendency to seek meaning to our actions. Not everything requires a meaning. A little fun now and then is a good thing.



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27 Sep 2014, 11:36 pm

mattschwartz01 wrote:
If you had a good time, does it matter why you did it? :) Sometimes humans have a tendency to seek meaning to our actions. Not everything requires a meaning. A little fun now and then is a good thing.

We on the spectrum especially tend to ruminate/obsess over events. A casual reading of Wrong Planet would tell you that.
I am not you, but you were horny he was hot seems right.


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28 Sep 2014, 12:55 pm

ASPartOfMe wrote:
I am not you, but you were horny he was hot seems right.


More like I was lonely he was horny.

But yeah, it is what it is. No point looking for meaning when there isn't any.



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01 Oct 2014, 5:27 pm

I hope you find SOME meaning.

There must have been some kind of connection for this to happen.

The guy should really appreciate it that you gave your body to him



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01 Oct 2014, 6:27 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I hope you find SOME meaning.

There must have been some kind of connection for this to happen.


I think I was just swayed by his interest.

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The guy should really appreciate it that you gave your body to him


I have no idea.

I've never actually been satisfied sexually by intercourse. I feel like an object. But even though I've been with a lot of men, I have never been with the ones that I wanted to be.



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01 Oct 2014, 9:20 pm

That really sucks!

I've been with people I didn't want to be with as well. It's not a good feeling.

The reason why I know I'm not gay: I've actually had the misfortune of experiencing gay 'sex." Both times, I was about 17-18 years old. One time, I "semi" consented; another time, it was done by force.

I truly hope you find someone with whom you could experience, fully, the pleasure of lovemaking. You deserve it.



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01 Oct 2014, 9:54 pm

I'm sorry that happened to you.

I'm still hoping someday to meet someone with whom I click, stranger things have happened.



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01 Oct 2014, 10:17 pm

I was in Kingston once. Unfortunately, it was raining. It seems like a nice city, though. I ate with my wife's son and his boyfriend at a Chinese restaurant near the piers. (By the way, I'm heterosexual).

It's in the Thousand Islands region. If you meet that "special someone," you could take the Thousand Islands tour with that person, and see Boldt Castle. That's a great way of bonding with a person, I believe.



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01 Oct 2014, 10:35 pm

Yes Boldt Castle is very romantic. As are the islands. It's a beautiful region.



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02 Oct 2014, 3:44 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
The reason why I know I'm not gay: I've actually had the misfortune of experiencing gay 'sex." Both times, I was about 17-18 years old. One time, I "semi" consented; another time, it was done by force.

androbot01 wrote:
I'm sorry that happened to you.




I most certainly concur with that thought.


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04 Oct 2014, 4:40 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
That really sucks!

I've been with people I didn't want to be with as well. It's not a good feeling.

The reason why I know I'm not gay: I've actually had the misfortune of experiencing gay 'sex." Both times, I was about 17-18 years old. One time, I "semi" consented; another time, it was done by force.

I truly hope you find someone with whom you could experience, fully, the pleasure of lovemaking. You deserve it.


Doesn't really sound like you experienced gay sex to me. Especially because you put "sex" in quotation marks. Gay people actually have sex, not "sex". It is for mutual pleasure.


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04 Oct 2014, 6:20 pm

My first relationship was for 9 years. He was much older than me and I was afraid of him. Sex with him was at first painful than later I just disassociated from myself. I eventually left him, but I think it blunted my feelings towards sex.



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19 Oct 2014, 10:52 pm

My wife told me ten years ago our marriage is a business relationship.

Since then I have outsourced sex to strippers and sugar babies. The current one danced at a club where I am VIP. I have seen her 6 years, she has been married 4 to her 3rd husband, her HS sweetheart who she describes as her soulmate on her FB page.. The sex with her is really great, the best I have had. I have occasionally rotated her with other girls. Because I make a high income in financial the cost is handled by an online hobby related business.