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Blue Jay
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07 Jul 2021, 1:17 pm

Hi all,

Have any of you experienced anxiety issues over "small" things which people you live with consistently do? Some things like that, which annoy me are:

- Waking-up sounds and when my mom puts up my curtains (often!)
- When my mom talks to her friends (she's often loud) and I'm sleeping
- (Some big ones for me): when people eat/sounds/movements in/around the kitchen. (Also, I can't eat with/around people).
- In general, I find it difficult, waking up without my silence, but my mom is an extravert..

I think, this post would be relevant for the adult in-depth discussion, since many adults might experience similar issues, living with their significant others, but idk.

How do/would you deal with this type of thing?

Note: I also have Generalized Anxiety Disorder.



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14 Jul 2021, 7:27 am

thanks for your post



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15 Jul 2021, 1:42 pm

There are things you can change and things you cannot. For sleep sound issues. I leave a fan running all night. This works wonders to drawn out other sounds.

In order to develop the skills to overcome some annoyances, you can use a repetitive situation as an opportunity to experiment with different techniques. For example a default condition can be to hear or see something annoying and think that the other person is doing it intentionally. This can reinforce the annoyance and make it almost perpetually annoying. If you can select something like this and force yourself to to work at seeing the person as acting unintentionally and even within his rights, you may begin to push back a little against reflexive annoyance.

I can testify as one who has lived next to a railroad that after a while you can begin to not notice. So it may be possible to expand your control and reflexive reactions. It just make take longer than for most others.



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Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
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19 Jul 2021, 4:46 am

The clicking teeth when eating... Loud speaking. Ignoring my requests not to do something... speaking with hidden/manipulative intentions... not leaving me alone...



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19 Jul 2021, 11:08 am

I also have anxiety over small things this has been going on for yrs this also when my incontinence will rear up its ugly head which is a totally problem its self.



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19 Jul 2021, 11:37 am

Yes, that sounds like part of GAD but also misophonia.

Misophonia is anxiety triggered by noises which wouldn't bother most other people, leading the person to feel extreme stress or even rage which is disproportionate to the sound.

It's part of Autism and Sensory Processing Disorder because it's a hypersensitivity to stimuli (sound).